Get back on the horse. Relapse is sometimes part of climbing the mountain. You will beat it, but you just need to keep at it.
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A relapse doesnât invalidate that 3 months you had. You can still build on that and learn from the slip. Hang in there.
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Yeah! Make it 4 next time, or 5 or 6. A year. You are strong to have made it to 3 months! Iâm not even there myself right now. Just 64 days. You did that once, you can do it again. I do not think this addiction has the God on you that you feel it does. You are most certainly beating it.
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3 months is a massive achievement!
Donât ever give up! A relapse is like losing a battle, but you have not lost the war!
I can tell you, you are going to win this battle! You have the right attitude, this problem will be like a dust mite on an elephant for you! Just believe and continue, no matter how you might fail or fall, every child has to learn to walk and falls multiple times before he / she learns to walk! Our goal is to disrupt this kingdom of darkness and be liberated from it! You donât belong to that filth Seb! You belong to the light! You belong to your higher power and He will take good care of you to liberate you from this repulsive scum! Just as He is liberating me!
I am not far on the way, but one thing I want is such a revenge on this habit on what it has done to me, how it has destroyed so much of my life, I will not take no for an answer, I am not going down without a fight! I am now 5 days clean from porn and 1 day clean from masturbation, but you will see more days of progress! I donât boast of myself! Of myself I can do nothing, but by my God I leap over a wall! By Him everything is possible! For me and for you!
You have to find out why you fell and make a strategy for next time. How could you have been more sober? Was dthere anything that triggered you? Could that trigger have been avoided?
I installed boomerang on my phone and my cousin can lock my internet access at night. I canât go online after 9pm. This is a help to me. I also leave my laptop at work and donât bring it home and will do this for 3months just to get some space between me and that garbage!
If you have space in a boxing ring, you are no longer smothered and you can punch back! This is my goal, to get space so I can kick this habit! The devil is not happy with your decision to stop doing porn so he will also do everything he can to get us to fall! That is why reading scripture can help us massively! I think you said you were a Christian right? So by taking time out to really pray, read and talk to God about your problem then you will make progress step by step!
Let me know how it goes!
Iâm rooting for you! You are going to win! Its a matter of time!
Your friend,
I will win!
Dude! Thanks a lot! I will take it seriously!
Sup everyone! I am here for you guys! Iwillwin is here for you! Watch the videos Iâm posting in this thread, these are very encouraging videos! I have done my searching on YouTube for the best videos that can helpâŚthere are many videos out there that will lead you astray or lead you to another relapse! Trust me! I have been there, searching for help only to fall myself!
So, my friends, I hope you are all well and getting the help you need here.
Share how itâs going, ainât nobody gonna judge you here! You are free to share!
So, how many days do you have?
What is your biggest challenge?
How do you think you can defeat it?
Make a strategy and share your strategy!
I am gonna pack the laptop away now, thatâs my strategy.
Pray before I go to bed, pray for you guys and gals,
I am attending my friends funeral tomorrow, he died young,
he was younger than me, car accidentâŚmade me think how short life can be,
makes me wanna live it right and do whatever I can to help myself get out and help others!
Goodnight friends!
I WILL WIN.
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It is so sad that you lost you friend this young. I have made so many strategy but I will share them when they started to work. To be honest, I really appreciate your way of sharing us your experiences and strategies. It seems that you are stick with your sobriety veritably. I WISH YOU BEST OF LUCK
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Can anyone recommend some good books on Porn Addiction?
The Sexaholics Anon book is amazing! Really helping me understand how much selfishness dwells in me and that by acknowledging the truth and facing the truth about myself is a way out of this dismal state!
Any other book recommendations friends?
Iâve read parts of He Restoreth My Soul. Itâs pretty good.
You might look up a book called âAlways Turned Onâ
Thanks guys! I am 3 days clean today. I relapsed by looking at xxx 3 days ago.
Every day is a fight and if I can keep pure good noble thoughts and reject every evil thought or every impure thought of a woman/thinking of women in a lustful way, then I become happier and I can keep a stronger connection to God.
I hope you are all doing well! Itâs worth fighting and scrapping for every ounce of power over lust! It begins when I confess that I am powerless and can do nothing apart from my higher power! If my higher power (in my case Jesus) is on my side, then I am invincible! I aim to keep the wall around my heart high and strong against these filthy thoughts that want to enter in!
Prayer is a weapon we can use to combat these self-destructive thoughts!
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Keeping âpure good noble thoughtsâ is something to strive for itâs important to know how to handle those thoughts that arenât so we donât relapse. Some things Iâve done are saying the serinity prayer, say "the devil is knocking at my door, God answer it for me please or say these women are the daughters of God and deserve to be treated and respected in that way.
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