So disappointed with myself. I had to hit reset on both coke and alcohol this morning. Hardly made it to 3 days. I felt really restless and bored last night and tried so bloody hard to distract myself! I’m trying to use this as a positive part of my journey and analyse the trigger a bit more. I think it’s purely and simply boredom. Before I hit reset I was thinking of the fact that I was bored and had nothing to do until next week (I’m on holiday from work). An absolutely pathetic reason!! I tried not to but obviously not hard enough. Is anyone else triggered by boredom?
Boredom or just getting in my head to deep. I can talk myself into damn near anything. I can give myself a reason to get drunk. Kids are aggravating me, hard day at work, or its Tuesday!
Hey! So you hit the reset button, I think we’ve all been there. I’ve been actively trying to quit now for a few years, just now been able to do so for a prolonged time, although some would call 21 days short. You’re describing what you did when you reset, which will be helpful in the future! I can totally relate to the boredom-trigger, I mean that’s probably why many use right? The hard thing is to occupy yourself and feeling well without the need for a shot of this or that. Maybe think about what else you could of done when you’re bored? There are a lot of helpful hints on this forum, ways to keep busy, from our addict perspective. I hope you don’t blame yourself too hard, you seem motivated to continue sober life and that’s what’s important! Keep going and push for at least 4 days and onwards. You can do it, one day at a time
Thankyou @Fubar84 glad I’m not alone in this! I have done some more reflection and my ‘danger hours’ are between 5 and 9pm. I’m going to make conscious effort to make sure I’m occupied during these times and focus on making it to 9pm!! Don’t know why but if it’s after then I’m happy to go to bed!! Thanks for your support and sending you strength
Bordedom is my number one trigger. It may not be healthy but I sleep to keep from drinking on my days off
You gotta do what you gotta do!! Thanks @Ash xx
We’re here for you no matter what!
Please don’t look at it as you failed, learn from it, take from it what you can and keep moving forward.
Every road has its bumps, sometimes even potholes…change the tire, hit the gas and keep going!
That is my biggest issue. I feel like I’m doing great and then BAM boredom! Don’t beat yourself up about it. You got this!
It’s hard to entertain yourself when your used to using and having fun.
Fucked up. Hate self.
What happened, you ok?
@Rikk decided fuck it, I deserve this, this is my medication. Had a bottle of wine. Now feel awful. Especially as my 18 yr old son just came through the door from a party absolutely hammered. I feel like I’ve influenced him. Horrible to see someone you love in that state.
I’d hate him to become like me
Well don’t say you hate yourself and you did not fuck up!
Get out of that mind set…shit happens, nothing you can do now but try and learn from this.
Was there a trigger…what was on your mind when you decided to take the first drink?
Please don’t beat yourself up over this @Megatron.
I’m sure everyone on here had to start over. I can’t count the number of times for myself. Im about 5 days sober…with the weekend bout to start. Ugh! And i don’t need a reason at all to pick it back up. Happy, sad, angry, hurt, lonely…
I get disappointed in myself also. It helps me in a way, by thinking how i was upset with myself. Lift your head up and move forward. Cant change what happened but we can what will happen. Stay strong!
I think I’m up to like 15 resets on alcohol since the beginning of July so really its how many times u pick yourself back up
Almost to 4 days
It’s so awesome the amount of support in this app. This is only my second day on here and I’m getting addicted. Getting addicted to an app helping you move past addictions. Lol. I was explaining the app to my fiance earlier today and he said that it sounds like a family and a community. This is so awesome. <3
@BrandiK .there’s a saying in AA “move a muscle, change a thought”…boredom (sitting still) is a huge trigger for many of us! Get up and do something: exercise, go for a walk, do jumping Jacks, whatever. It may sound silly but it does help. For me in early sobriety, reading was impossible cuz I couldn’t concentrate on anything that required actual concentration, so exercise or housework, anything that required movement without a lot of thought made it easier. I have a higher power that I pray to for wisdom and strength, that helps me too. Don’t beat yourself up for a slip, you can’t take it back so learn from it and move forward. One day at a time, sometimes it’s 5 minutes at a time…keep sharing your struggles…our secrets are what keep us sick…you got this!
@MicheleH Thanks for the advice! I was really hoping for find an app that would offer support and I found one. Today is day two and I wanted a beer so bad but I refrained. Laying in bed helps…you can’t crave when you sleep lol I’m planning on going to the gym next week after work. I think that we help with the boredom. Thanks for the reply. You’re awesome!
@BrandiK The gym is a fantastic idea, that keeps me straight, makes you feel better about yourself and the endorphins it produces is in itself a high. Plus, you get a hot bod…lol…Good for you!