I went dam near a month and fell hard off the wagon. Its going to be hard to climb back on because it seems everything is crumbling around me
Life becomes unmanageable in active addiction. Here is my suggestions. All you have to do is not drink today. We can do anything for 1 day. I’ve been where you are, you can stop. Each night you put a sober head on your pillow you win. Those small wins really add up. Give your sobriety 100%, spend time on recovery related things everyday. Podcasts, books, this site, meetings… it doesn’t really matter what it is, whatever works for you my friend. I sincerely wish you the best. Reach out anytime.
@Jd6760 You can do this! One small decision at a time. You deserve something better than what alcohol falsely promise you.
Maybe try ameeting might help wish you well
What were you doing to stay sober?
Yea I plan on going to one tonight.
Its not so much what I was doing is my relatio ship has been really rocky with the wife
Drinking does not help any relationship. We can make all the excuses in the world to drink but we never have a reason.
Correct. And im so pist at myself for letting it get back to this point agian. I felt a hell of a lot better mental and physically when I was sober. Guess all I can do is fight back to that point agian
It seems like you know some of what dosent work. Use this experience to go forward. Also the experience of a support group. I know how you feel. A wise woman once told me =:skull_and_crossbones:. Relationships are tough sober, let alone when we are drunk. Get through today and worry about tommorow when it comes. The shit is always gonna hit the fan at some time. It’s just a lot easier to go through when we are present. Imho. Glad you are here.
I guess my point was this: getting sober goes far past just not drinking. What were you doing besides not drinkin?
Hang in there!!
As I sat in the parking lot of the liquor store. I remembered a guy from the meetings gave me his number. I hesitated to reach out but I did. And when I called him he said he’s daily devotation today told him someone would call that needs help.
That is a great thing…for both of you. You’ve gotten great advice so far. This is an amazing community!! As others have said…I’m glad you’re here!
The phone can weigh a ton…but in my experience it gets lighter and I always felt better after speaking with someone…
Yep talked to him and felt better. Now a meeting in a couple hours
I am a chronic relapser and I can tell you a lot of advice honestly…
honestly, every time i have relapsed things go to shit, quickly. Things are crumbling because you relapsed. It blew my mind how much I was able to accomplish sober…
Its better to quit sooner than later. Detox how it is needed, get yourself back to homeostasis.
and just set yourself miniature goals until you get to whereever it is that you need to be, to have your ducks in a row again.
A journal, or big white-erase board have both been helpful for me in setting up a more clear path using smaller goals to make it to bigger ones. I’ve found it useful after a relapse that screws me over.
If you have any alcohol in the house, throw it out. Thats something I’ve only done twice in my life, both times this year. The last time I threw out a 20 dollar box of wine that i never opened. You would be surprised how incredibly empowering it can be, especially if you are trying to NOT waste and throw money away further than you are to begin with in buying booze.
Change your perspective on how you view it.
You’re spending hundreds of dollars, on something that makes you perform low at work, less money possibly, depletes your health, spending more on doctors visits possibly, for a fleeting feeling that will only last a few hours. And it only CAN last a few hours otherwise at some point, you’re in touble. At some point you WILL be sober, and the longer you stay sober, the sooner you feel better, because if you dont stop you certainly will be in trouble at some point.
Got to keep it in perspective
Don’t be angry with yourself. It can happen and it can be just a good lesson and reminder of where you don’t belong to anymore if you give it chance.
Think about all the reasons why you choose sobriety and go from there. I know how hard it is, but we both also know that it’s possible.
Good luck on your way
This place full of amazing people is always here if you need.
No truer words! Whew!
Get sober and repair your life!