I’ve been here so many times. Listen to your stories. Starting my sobriety. Relapse again. This time I’m going to make it. My first month. I could use some advice or just some kind words.
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I completed 7 days…and I installed this app at the same time…Many years,probably more than 12 years, I masterbated… a lot…now,I think, this time I have to stop…for my own good…cz,now I am 25…may be after 3 years or 4, I am going to be married…so, I thought, enough is enough…lets,destroy the evil habit…I have a target to be sober for atleast 3 months…who knows, may be I am going to achieve more than that…a year???yeah,good to thinkk…so, be with us,and just throw the f***ing habit away…
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You need to stay strong and stay busy. Don’t put yourself in a position where you know you’re going to be tempted to watch (like don’t lay down in your bed until you’re ready for bed ). It will really help your focus ! Every time you want to just look at the app and check your progress and think about how much better your relationships will be in the long run. You CAN do this!!
Here’s some advice from a longtime porn addict - every time you have a craving, find something else to do. Anything, really, as long as it doesn’t involve porn or masturbation. @Oliverjava posted a great list on another thread for ideas of stuff to do instead of your DOC. I tend to jump in here on this forum and start responding to stuff, or if there’s nothing here for me I start another thread.
Also, I know that for me, trying to change the way I look at women has helped quite a lot. Try to see them as other people rather than sex objects. It’s a weird shift, but you can do it with some thought.
Figuring out your triggers is also a huge thing. Mine are boredom and frustration, so I try to make sure I’m nearly always occupied with something. I’ve also tried to find other outlets for my frustration.
One final thing that I’ve found effective is researching porn as an industry, and how horrible it is to women. You’ll be disgusted and not want to support that anymore. There are a lot of great articles linked from this forum.
Finally, you can do this. I know for me it’s been the hardest 25 days of my life, but I already feel better for it, and better about myself. Stick around here, talk about what you’re experiencing and feeling, and we’ll help you. You don’t have to go it alone, we’ve got your back.
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I remember someone said a child in africa dies every time someone jacks off. I think statistically that is true.
I am not sure if this is helpful or not but it made me think twice a few times. Good luck.
Thank you all. I will try to fill my life with what’s make me feel good. Both mentally and physically. I can do this. And so can all of you. Thank you for the inspiration, I needed that. And thank you for a cheering up, I needed that too.
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I think @Ignatius gave u some good advice. I think it’s great that you want to stop this before getting married. But also look deeper,like also do it for yourself because it’s important for us to realize that we deserve to be happy and treat ourselves good ,even if we don’t have a special someone,ya know?
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