I have a wife now. We have been married 16 years. We got married before I realized I had an addiction. I have actively communicated with her throughout my journey. I have consulted with my counsellor and my addiction recovery group before speaking with my wife about my behaviours which were hurtful to her (disclosing or discussing those behaviours without consulting with your recovery group or specialist first is unwise, because the disclosure may cause harms that are not helpful and not necessary).
I have kept my wife apprised of what I am doing: visiting my counsellor, attending my recovery meetings. I do not discuss the details of discussions with the counsellor or in the meetings - those details are private - but she is aware of the general purpose of my visits.
There is certainly help for you. There are many sex addiction recovery meetings worldwide. Visit the website www.SA.org for one program that has many meetings, both in person and online, around the world. There are other sex addiction recovery programs too - there is a list of them here: