So I’m 24 days sober, which is an achievement in itself. But I just want to go to bed as soon as I get home. I don’t, as I’ve two boys, 14 and 11, so I make dinner and do chores. But I just want to go to bed. I clock watch. I try and sit down and relax, but the clock is going round real slow. This is the time I’m usually drinking. I find myself in bed at 8, eldest stays up and youngest sits in bed with me watching a film on his tablet. Is this still recovery? Is it avoidance? Am I sticking my head in the sand? Feel guilty still, but not for drinking but for being selfish going to bed early…
Does it matter? I mean does it matter if it’s avoiding ore recovery? I think you have to do what you have to do in case of staying sober. You’re still in the early days. So if this is possible in combination with your kids I wouldn’t worry.
Feeling tired is normal in the beginning of your sobriaty. You can try a high dosed vitamin B complex supplement if you want to. Because of the drinking we can have a lack of it.
I went to bed early also the first 2 months or so of my sobriaty. If I slept I could not drink
Hang in there, you are doing great lady!!
It’s ok to need rest … your body is adapting to the new chapter … I’m sure your boys would rather u rest a0nd get healthy u will balance out in time just sick with it. It’s a bust time of the year for us mum’s so please don’t give yourself a hard time. Your doing amazing x
You used to fill your nights with drinking AND you have two boys.
The sleep you got back in your drinking days must have been of poor quality and way to little. I think your body now needs the rest and it is ok to give in and get it. After some more time sober you will find a good balance.
Thanks guys, I think perhaps I’m replacing one set of guilt with another. I know I’m a different person not drinking, but for the better. Just got ti accept where I am and keep going. I do think the boys feel happier, and I’m not shouting as much!! Keep looking for positives xx Have a good day all x
I think your doing absolutely great your where your meant to be at,try going to bed and getting up at roughly the same time it get your body clock back to some normality ,I feel we sleep so much in early recovery as when we drank and drugged it wasn’t really sleep at all,your fine do what feels right for your body .xxya just round the corner from 1month we started up at the same time I’m 25 days today all my love Emma.xx
For sure it is sobriety. Your body needs restorative rest to heal. And that takes time. I can’t think of much more comforting than a snuggly cozy restorative sleep.
I am sorry this feels indulgent to you, it isn’t. You really need to baby your sobriety in early days. Give yourself what your body is asking for…sleep, healthier foods, also comfort foods, rest, activity, whatever your body is calling out for in a healthy way.
Getting healthy and sober is so important to you and your family. Be proud of what you are doing and creating. Be proud of healing your body mind and spirit.
I am a mom of a 10 year old and a 12 year old, and I work full time. I have about a month and 22 days without drinking. I typically get ready for bed starting around 7:30, after dinner and homework is done. Part of my routine is light, gentle yoga, followed by some meditation, and then light reading. I am usually lights out by 8:30.
If I get the sleep I need, I am a better person for it the next day.
Shed the adage that a “Woman’s work is never done”. Relax into being able to relax. It will be ok. The work, chores, and to do list will be there tomorrow. Keep going!
I myself have been sleeping earlier then I would but lately I’ve been pushing myself to sleep later. Loke around 9pm or 10pm to then wake up around 5am. Hell, I wake up without my alarm sometimes! I agree with what everyone is saying. We used to drink ourselves to sleep sometimes and our body is simply catching up now. Congrats on the 24 days btw! I’m on day 85 myself. Both you and I are still new to all of this and we simply need to enjoy how we’re feeling now ^.^
I think sleep is very important in recovery. I have a 5yo who wants to do everything all the time and I feel bad I dont have the energy. But I know if I keep taking care of myself it will come back. It’s hard this time of year bc of weather and the crazy rush of holidays but itll be over soon and spring and the sun will bring a new energy to my sober body. At least that’s what I’m hoping for, lol.
Thank you all for ‘humanising’ me. I think with drinking so much and the guilt it carried, it’s hard to stop drinking and for the guilt to stop too. I crave the sleep, and even though it’s terribly broken, I feel safe there. Winter nights aren’t great, and all this Christmas talk is bittersweet and emotionally draining I find. Small steps, but I look forward to lighter nights, and less party/booze talk around me. Bring on a sober, healthy 2020. Thanks again everyone, I believe I’d of relapsed by now without you x