# Sober Selfies #21 (NO swimwear, shirts required, please review rules)
**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676
**Category:** Life in Recovery
**Created:** [November 11, 2025, 3:10am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676 "2025-11-11T03:10:23Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
**Page:** 1
### Author:  [@system](https://talkingsober.com/u/system)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 3:10am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/1 "2025-11-11T03:10:23Z")
Continuing the discussion from [Sober Selfies #20 (NO swimwear, shirts required, please review rules) - #2778 by Bjmccarthy2](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-20-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/191434/2778).
Previous discussions:
- [Sober Selfies #9 (shirts required please)](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-9-shirts-required-please/117516)
- [Sober Selfies #10 (shirts required, please review rules)](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-10-shirts-required-please-review-rules/121399)
- [Sober Selfies #11 (shirts required, please review rules)](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-11-shirts-required-please-review-rules/127364)
- [Sober Selfies #12 (shirts required, please review rules)](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-12-shirts-required-please-review-rules/134560)
- [Sober Selfies #13 (shirts required, please review rules)](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-13-shirts-required-please-review-rules/142684)
- [Sober Selfies #14 (shirts required, please review rules)](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-14-shirts-required-please-review-rules/149830)
- [Sober Selfies #15 (shirts required, please review rules)](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-15-shirts-required-please-review-rules/158388)
- [Sober Selfies #16 (shirts required, please review rules)](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-16-shirts-required-please-review-rules/169320)
- [Sober Selfies #17 (shirts required, please review rules)](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-17-shirts-required-please-review-rules/176093)
- [Sober Selfies #18 (NO swimwear, shirts required, please review rules)](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-18-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/180655)
- [Sober Selfies #19 (NO swimwear, shirts required, please review rules)](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-19-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/186332)
- [Sober Selfies #20 (NO swimwear, shirts required, please review rules)](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-20-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/191434)
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### Author:  [@JasonFisher](https://talkingsober.com/u/JasonFisher)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 3:18am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/2 "2025-11-11T03:18:40Z")
Me about to go and outshine four guys half my age.
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### Author:  [@Dazercat](https://talkingsober.com/u/Dazercat)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 3:40am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/3 "2025-11-11T03:40:22Z")
Great start to this thread. Show em how’s it’s done sailor 🫡
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### Author:  [@drowninglessons](https://talkingsober.com/u/drowninglessons)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 8:04am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/4 "2025-11-11T08:04:13Z")
35 days sober, and 1 month into being single. Vowed to not be in a relationship or drink for at least a year until I can get my bpd symptoms under control. Currently in DBT therapy and putting myself first!
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### Author:  [@JazzyS](https://talkingsober.com/u/JazzyS)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 10:18am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/5 "2025-11-11T10:18:15Z")
Great work on your journey. Looking great 🎉🎊. ODAAT 💪🏽
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### Author:  [@MTSober](https://talkingsober.com/u/MTSober)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 2:41pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/6 "2025-11-11T14:41:38Z")
> [@drowninglessons](#):
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> Vowed to not be in a relationship or drink for at least a year
I did the same thing.
And, even when I met my now ex.
I just let her be friends for 9 months before anything, and _everything_.
Even though it didn’t work out, patients was good.
In sobriety we learn to take it slower. Because, i mean look at what happened when we rush or try and find a high. Lol.
It seems when your focused on an idea you will, just will yourself to it. I think having BPD does that as well, pros and cons of having it.
(_I do too_)
I can see it in your eyes, so I guess, you don’t need luck here. You got it.
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### Author:  [@Ray\_M\_C\_Laren](https://talkingsober.com/u/Ray_M_C_Laren)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 2:57pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/7 "2025-11-11T14:57:23Z")
This old Scotsman 74 in Jan 39 years sober
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### Author:  [@drowninglessons](https://talkingsober.com/u/drowninglessons)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 3:41pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/8 "2025-11-11T15:41:31Z")
Yes, my most recent partner and I ended it. It broke my heart. He really saw me for who I was, but my bpd symptoms were just so severe. We only dated for five months but things moved fast. Maybe too fast. Sometimes I felt like this rush or high. I was devastated when he called it. We are both very much in love… we haven’t talked in a few weeks. My symptoms have lessened by A LOT… which says a lot to me. I yearn for a meaning relationship and to settle down one day. But learning I have bpd within the last couple of months paired with a fast paced relationship really set me off and i was having episodes and anxiety attacks almost every fucking weekend. Alcohol definitely did not help. It made my symptoms worse when I just wanted to feel normal. I am hoping focusing on myself for at least a year will get me where I want to be. Confident, comfortable in my skin, and more secure in myself and who I am and what my core values are
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### Author:  [@MTSober](https://talkingsober.com/u/MTSober)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 3:49pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/9 "2025-11-11T15:49:31Z")
> [@drowninglessons](#):
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> I yearn for a meaning relationship and to settle down one day.
Yeah, i feel that deeply.
Some days suck, but, things do get better.
Always do.
Alcohol and BPD dont mix. I never got anywhere in relationships because of it, because of me, and my choices.
But, we are taking a step, everyday to a better future, that begins in the mind and handeling emotions.
> [@drowninglessons](#):
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> Confident, comfortable in my skin, and more secure in myself and who I am and what my core values are
You will, takes time and work. But will naturally set in place.
Lots of saddness, but things become anew, better than before.
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### Author:  [@Lezourez](https://talkingsober.com/u/Lezourez)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 7:10pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/10 "2025-11-11T19:10:33Z")
When in January ?
😇&😈
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### Author:  [@JasonFisher](https://talkingsober.com/u/JasonFisher)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 7:18pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/11 "2025-11-11T19:18:37Z")
Lookin sharp Ray! 39 years! 💪
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### Author:  [@CanadianGirl](https://talkingsober.com/u/CanadianGirl)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 8:50pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/12 "2025-11-11T20:50:56Z")
320 days sober and just traded in my bright red hair for a dark brunette.
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### Author:  [@JasonFisher](https://talkingsober.com/u/JasonFisher)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 9:48pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/13 "2025-11-11T21:48:39Z")
320! 💪Killin it!
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### Author:  [@Mbwoman](https://talkingsober.com/u/Mbwoman)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 10:33pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/14 "2025-11-11T22:33:21Z")
Lovely! Prepping for the BIG YEAR celebration.
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### Author:  [@Mbwoman](https://talkingsober.com/u/Mbwoman)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 10:34pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/15 "2025-11-11T22:34:56Z")
My foot surgery selfie! Wearing this stylish boot through the holidays. Tres chic! Check out the plastic toe guard! Perfect for people like me who can stub a toe while standing still.
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### Author:  [@SinceIAwoke](https://talkingsober.com/u/SinceIAwoke)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 11:24pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/16 "2025-11-11T23:24:12Z")
Ouchie! I hope you heal well and quickly.
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### Author:  [@Mbwoman](https://talkingsober.com/u/Mbwoman)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 11:37pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/17 "2025-11-11T23:37:13Z")
@SinceIAwoke… thanks! I usually do when I get cut on. 🤣
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### Author:  [@CanadianGirl](https://talkingsober.com/u/CanadianGirl)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 11:42pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/18 "2025-11-11T23:42:38Z")
@JasonFisher thank you! Time certainly has been flying . Sometimes it feels like just yesterday I found you all here
@Mbwoman Thanks and yes 1 year is approaching fast. That definitely has me a bit excited but I try not to think about it too much out of fear future tripping might somehow cause me to blow it before I get there. Wishing you a speedy recovery from your surgery.
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### Author:  [@Mbwoman](https://talkingsober.com/u/Mbwoman)
#### Post date: [November 11, 2025, 11:52pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/19 "2025-11-11T23:52:27Z")
You are smart to approach anniversaries with that mindset. We definitely can overthink!! I wish you well…1 year is a big deal.
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### Author:  [@Hazy](https://talkingsober.com/u/Hazy)
#### Post date: [November 12, 2025, 12:03am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/sober-selfies-21-no-swimwear-shirts-required-please-review-rules/201676/20 "2025-11-12T00:03:12Z")
Sober Awesomeness 🌷
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