Thanks everyone for the words, hugs and thoughts. There was talk about the funeral service today. I gave my sister some photos for the slideshow. Unfortunately, I have some unavoidable doctor appts on mon and tues so selfishly I’m hoping the service will be sometime this coming week. If it’s this weekend I can drive over and then drive home. I’d just be tired but I could make it work.
I’ve pretty much just been isolating today. I just ordered pizza which is always a good choice imo. I randomly started crying when someone died in grey’s anatomy earlier. The hubs has just kind of let me be. I feel lucky we have been together so long. He understands the relationship my dad and I had. He hasn’t been pressuring me to talk or do anything. I think he is supporting me from afar. I take comfort in knowing he is around if needed.
Me again. The family drama has started and I hate it so much. The funeral is friday which is kind of fast and we had to throw some things together. We were able to get off work, get an airbnb and of course are taking the dogs. We are driving over today. My aunts/his sisters are mad because the funeral is friday and they can’t make it. They are trying to say we are being selfish and excluding them. I told them they are being selfish by expecting the funeral to be a certain day. My dad’s wife did all the planning. I didn’t have a say in it. I’ve also never buried someone so I don’t know if it’s common to ask when is it convenient to have a funeral. When I told them he was on his death bed, they took almost 3 weeks to make plans and then drove from Florida and only stayed a weekend. It’s very frustrating to have all this added to the grief. These are the same aunts that basically forgot my sister and I were alive when our parents divorced. We didn’t hear from them for years and it’s not like we are close now. I feel bad that they can’t make it but also I won’t take the blame because I didn’t schedule the funeral. I offered to live stream it for them and I also told them they could have a separate memorial when they are able to make the trip.
I’m so sorry all of the drama is infringing upon your time to grieve. It does sound like they’re really out of line to be blaming you and insulting you like this. I hope you can try to not be too affected by it.
me again just checking in. Yesterday was super stressful and we were in the car for about 9 hours. We got stuck in Dallas traffic, which if you know anything about that - it’s bad on a good day and yesterday it was worse than that. The dogs did great and slept a lot of the way here. The Aunt drama went on for a few text exchanges. I said my peace and stopped responding. Dad’s wife decided to say some things so it was very weird to get a text from Dad. Honestly, I can see everyone’s POV but also I wouldn’t be shifting blame if I couldn’t attend a funeral in another state. I’m up early so I can get a run in before getting ready for the funeral. It’s at 1130 and then I’m sure we will spend time with my sister. It’s going to be a busy day. The hubs has been really great. He has been very understanding of my feelings or lack there of. He drove the whole way here and took care of the airbnb. I literally just had to pack and sit in the car. It’s a nice role reversal. I really like sober hubs. He told me the other day it’s been 7 months now
Thanks as always for letting me unload thoughts. I know I wouldn’t be sober if it wasn’t for this app and the people within it.
Thank you for sharing. I’m sorry things are so tough right now. It sounds like you are handling things as well as they can be, given the challenges and circumstances. Hearing people out while maintaining what I agree is a reasonable perspective. And I am sorry for your loss. Sending good vibes your way. I hope the drama subsides asap so you can have a better chance to grieve however you need to with more space to breathe.
I’m taking a beat to actually think about what keeps me from falling back into food binging.
It’s the simple stuff:
journaling
resting
reading
getting on my rowing machine
my Diamond Paintings
making sure I’m hitting my protein goals
keeping my ‘trigger foods’ far, far away
No eating in front of the TV
planning my meals
getting decent sleep
staying connected with you guys here on TS Sober.
Honestly, it feels amazing knowing all of this is actually in my power. I don’t need a religious epiphany. Just me, being a human, getting it done through my own grit and by sticking close to this community. Without you, I wouldn’t have made it so far. I am so grateful for you.
which is always a good choice imo. I randomly started crying when someone died in grey’s anatomy earlier. The hubs has just kind of let me be. I feel lucky we have been together so long. He understands the relationship my dad and I had. He hasn’t been pressuring me to talk or do anything. I think he is supporting me from afar. I take comfort in knowing he is around if needed.
