I have been sober. My partner relapsed to alcohol. He is not looking to recovering. Am I wrong for not wanting to stay? So many triggers. I am not wanting to go back to alcohol. Seeing the way he is and the things he does makes me feel like we are koving backwards when things weren’t so good. I want to be able to love forward. I just feel so guilty.
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Check out this thread for a start. You are not alone, and you are not doing anything wrong.
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You got to take care of you first. Nothing wrong with that. Sorry you’re going through this. 
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Hey Alexandria.
I’m sorry your partner has relapsed and not looking for recovery. I got sober a while ago and my partner supports me but she’s gonna drink. Al-Anon has helped me tremendously keep my shit together. It’s ok to feel guilty. I felt guilt too. My wife, after all these years drinking together, never asked for this new sober me.
We did nothing wrong.
We didn’t cause them to drink.
We cannot control their drinking.
And we certainly cannot cure them.
I hear so many stories of strength and hope through my Al-Anon meetings. It’s comforting knowing I’m not alone. I wish someone would just tell me what to do sometimes but it doesn’t work that way.
Maybe you can find something interesting on that thread Dan mentioned.
Many days I had to repeat to myself.
“I did nothing wrong.” “I did nothing wrong!”
Sorry you have to deal with this family disease.
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