Hello.
I’m sober for 1.5 year.
I just finished my first step.
I was on 1 step almost 1 year.
Now I’m doing 90/90 daily call with sponsor, because I couldn’t do this at first.
Our group is 5 girl’ group to work on steps.
In the begining I had feelings that our step working group was like chatting. I had feelings that my aponsor was talking about her, her personal life and instead of me been working on step I was listening her personal information. Sometimes I had gut feeling there is something wrong.
Then I quit this feelings and thought. My gut feelings. I prayed. I was focused on my recovery.
And the journey gone forward. But when I’m calling her very often she still tells me personas information about her and hers relationship with NA guy. I have wish that everyone in this NA and road to stay Anonymous.
I don’t know what is wrong with me. Where I’m right and where I’m wrong. But I really feel sad, angry, confused. I need advice or clear mind. What can I do?
If there is someone who has experience or relates this situation. Please help me.
P.S. today I called her. She didn’t answered. And then she wrote some sexy jokes and stuff in our step working chat. That she is going to date. But sometimes she calles me herself and talks about private life stufss. Breakes anonym rules and all.
Uptade: we just had step meeting which is as usual 1,5 hour. But today’s meeting was only 1 hour. From this 1 hour 45 mins. Was about free speech about our week. But mostly my sponsor was talkin about her personal details. And today was first meeting in second step and we only real literatura in last 15 minutes. No question. Nothin. Is this right? I’m really confused. I have anger. I can’t set boundaries. I can’t speak my true. Even I’m scared to cut off relationship. Because we may meet each other in groups. And we became close to each other. I THINK I will search all information in this forum, there are many topics about sponsor-sponsee relationship.
I personally don’t follow AA or any type of program, but I did just test: if you use the button up top and search for ‘sponsor’, there is an abundance of threads to choose from and read through. Hope that helps!
Welcome to the community and a great job on your 18 months of sobriety. This is impressive work.
I’m sorry that your sponsor is not being so helpful in your sobriety. None of what you wrote sounds like she is doing justice in being a sponsor.
I would suggest looking for another sponsor.
This is a great community where you will find lots of support and advice. Hopefully we will see you around
button up top and search for ‘sponsor’, there is an abundance of threads to choose from and read through. Hope that helps!