Psychiatry isn’t usually a one-off, but an ongoing collaboration until some solution is found. Did you tell them the SSRI didn’t work and ask about other options? You go until it works or until there is nothing left to try, appealing or not. My meds have been changed what, 15, 20, 30 times? Lots of different psych meds plus dose changes, over several years. Referrals to multiple different types of therapy, community programs, etc. Really seeing everything through before deciding it’s not useful. Do not stop trying things until something is helping, then if that isn’t enough, find the next thing. Also, I don’t know what “I basically know” means, but go with the diagnosis your psychiatrist gives you, not the entry of the DSM or ICD that sounds most like you. It’s a job for the professionals. I’m not saying you don’t know anything, I’m saying this isn’t a DIY deal.
If your therapy is describable as chit chat for an hour, it’s definitely time to get a new therapist. Growth involves challenge and doing or learning things you haven’t done before. If I haven’t felt better or felt challenged, I’ve moved on to someone who does do this. So I agree with you on finding a new psychologist to work with.
I understand you’re discouraged at how little seems to have been solved by what you’ve tried. And that’s completely okay to feel. I feel this way all the time. Just don’t buy into the idea that things aren’t worth it. Or that you’ve tried everything that could possibly help. There is always a way forward. Always.