it’s a day-to-day struggle to stay clean and would like to have some feedback on to make it easier. I have been clean almost 90 days but everyday seems to get harder and harder
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First of all. 90 days is a big amount of time. So well done on your achievement. I’ve found write down the things sobriety gives me as opposed to what drinking does helps. If I crave which is getting rare I am happy to allow myself a non alcoholic drink. It works for me. Some might argue it opens the door to a way back but for me it really doesn’t. I think the key for us all is knowing that we don’t want to go back to where we were. 90 days. A huge achievement. Be good to yourself
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you taking time out of your life to respond to what I had to say and I get ridiculed all the time about being on the Suboxone program but it does keep me clean. sometimes I know I used it as a crutch but like I said it keeps me clean and 90 days as long as there have been cleaning for the past 14 years of using
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No one should ridicule anyone. Only the weak do that. The strong take a look at their life and say you know what I’m done I’m changing. You got this mate. You’ll find tons of guys here who will be so encouraging you won’t believe
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@Rykerlee congrats With 90 days you should be Proud of that 
you are the boss of your life .life smiling you got this !
Congrats! You’re right there with me I hear you on the struggles that’s for sure. I’m the type of person that has a really hard time asking for help because I’m usually the one helping everybody else. Well as much as I possibly can or could. I now find myself having a lot of self talk, sometimes arguments LOL convincing myself that I’m worth fighting through that struggle. Sometimes it takes a good cry, or call but usually I have to either come on to a site like this or remind myself that I got this! Just like you got this! You’ve made it this far writing down things to remind yourself why you are so much better off where you’re at is a very good tool to use to get through those times. Keep up the great work!
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Yea its heard i just got out of rehab and now waiting for a halfway house to get into but being on the street every day until then it’s hard…really when i have noone to talk to. Its easier to talk to a female the another guy about my problems even know they say not to do that.i struggle everyday of my life
I can imagine its hard for men to confide in other men, but remember theyve been there just like you or are people that have your best interest at heart. We addicts often need reminders to hunble ourselves and accept the help that is given to us. I can’t say i know what you are going through, but can only remind you that you are worthy and keep at it, in the end you will not be disappointed!
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I just wrote a post about sobriety being like taking a cold shower… it’s uncomfortable and no matter how many you take, it never gets easier… but in order to cleanse away yesterday’s experiences as well as the stench addition attaches to us, we must take a deep breath and through the cold. Your body eventually adapts to the cold for short intervals… but we will always crave a hot shower. It’s human nature.
I’m going on 3 years of cold showers and only 3 days of sobriety- cold showers are a piece of cake compared to the day to day showers of triggers and temptations.
One shower and day at a time
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I’m also on the Suboxone program and I have been ridiculed for it as well people calling in a crutch or an easy way out but that really isn’t how I see it and out of all the things I’m doing right now to work on my sobriety whether that be my intensive outpatient or my Suboxone program or my going to NA I truly believe that going to NA actually is what’s been helping me the most today I have 36 days clean. I haven’t had 36 days consecutively clean in probably close to four years and before that it was another three years.