Well done on 18 days.
Stay strong 
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Good job on your 18 days and getting the personal responsibility. It took me a long while not to be angry at my husband for not āsupportingā me enough in my early sobriety and not to blame him for my inability to get sober. But once I released those feelings and really āgotā that I alone was responsible for my drinking (why was this a hard concept for me?), it got easier. I need to do this for me and I CAN regardless of where my husband is at. That is HIS journey.
Anywayā¦well done. 
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I unfortunately understand. Perhaps Al Anon may help? Wishing you well and forward healing in this situation
I wish we didnāt have this in common for your sake. It is all happening to teach us something. Just wish the universe would let me take some time off from the schooling. 
I can so relate with all of this. Iām on day 19 without alcohol, not my first attempt to quit. My husband is a ānormalā drinker, and gets away with the occasional 9am beer on the weekends but I have never actually seen him drunk so that excuses these kinds of actions in his eyes. But really, I am the one with the obvious problem. Heās seen me blacked out, passed out, throwing up on myself and belligerently drunk many times. Yet he still wonāt actually agree that I have a drinking problemā¦baffles me. Anyway, he is still calling me on his way to the liquor store after work asking if I want anything. I keep telling him no and to stop asking me, and I hope he does once he realizes how serious and determined I am this time. Luckily I havenāt wanted to have a drink up to this point but I am nervous for the day he offers and Iām not in a strong mindset. Iām going to give the threads on being with spouses who drink a read now. Thanks for sharing!
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No kidding. I feel you
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Hi @MissOctoberā¦ I watched something from Annie Grace (Naked Mind) on youtube that completely reminded me of your post. I will provide the link of you care to take a look. It is about 9 minutes in lengthā¦ https://youtu.be/av2HM_XrEqE
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Hi @Roundkick- Thank you for sharing that with me! Annie definitely made some interesting points and Iām going to watch some more of her videos now 
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Awesome! I am happy to hear that you found it helpful!
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