Past weekend with Hubby was just horrible. A battle took place almost every moment for 3 days. I was told how horrible I am, don’t do anything and I must be on drugs and he wished I would just get out of his life because I make him so miserable. By Sunday night after he returned to his work home I received several texts on how he appreciates all I do. He is a lunatic and frustrates the hell out of me.
This week I promised I would do more and yesterday at 8am drove 30 minutes away to pick up some help for outside labor. Made plans to pick up same person at 8am this morning. Haven’t been sleeping all that great and am up at 530am. Drove to pick up worker today only for them to come out to the car and inform me they were not working today and did notify my husband. Hubby said yes he had been notified and sorry I didn’t get the message. What a waste of time and gas. So again tomorrow I will drive to pick up the help again.
With that vented .. just found out hubby coming back home tomorrow a day early. Immediately I become exhausted and overwhelmed. We have a cleaning service for Thursday but now I still will do what they would have done. Not to mention I promised some heavy duty tasks done outside by the time he returns. I have started these tasks but the pressure to get stuff done knowing he will not be happy no matter what is really exhausting. I know I can only do what I can but the fact is I could do it all but what price am I paying with my mental health? There is always a slight chance he will be thrilled with the progress I have made. I just get to wait and see. Life is not boring at all for me.
Hey I am sober and lost more weight this week. I will celebrate my personal victories.
Celebrate those personal victories and do know you are a hard working badass woman! I am sorry that this is not seen and appreciated more.
I am sorry for the horrid weekend you had and the fucked up communication that caused you to waste time and gas. This is frustrating on so many levels. I do hope that you don’t compromise your mental health. Sending love and hugs and oodles of strength as you work your way through the week. I think you are great! 
I’m sorry your hubby doesn’t see how hard you try!
Good morning 501 days. Celebrated my big 500 yesterday. I did get to celebrate with a dinner out. Great meal and no clean up for me. Hurrah! Unfortunately instead of the outing to be about me my hubby invited daughter and boyfriend. I think the only words I spoke during dinner was to give my food order. My hubby and step daughter have to be the most selfish unaware people I have ever met. I feel I might be selfish thinking this time out should have been focused slightly on me. Oh well food was good. This morning I awoke only to be barraged with statements of I am still an addict in everything I do. Too much phone and do absolutely nothing around here. Rented out our room yesterday and instead of financially helping us roommate is going to work off the deposit. Pisses me off. Hubby also said roommate is here to keep me in line and make me focus on what needs to be done. Sobriety though amazing for me personally to see me and my potential I also see an environment that created my alcoholic being to thrive in the first place. I am sure this too will pass.
Congrats on your 500 days! Im sorry you didn’t receive the acknowledgement you deserve from your family. Sending love and hugs. You’re amazing!
Thank you so much.
Congratulations on 500 days! What an accomplishment. Next it will be the comma club, keep going! I’m sorry to read about how your husband is treating you. Keep your head up, you rock!!
@tailee17 youre an amazing spirit. Huge congrats on 500days. My therapist said today that the expectations you had in addiction are sure to change sober. Hubbys behavior and berating was accdptable in the past doesnt mean its acceptable to the new and improved taliee. Start building a financial nest egg in case you have had enough of his bullshit toxicity. Hes keeping you down because he can see you outgrowing him.
Much love my cheerful friend
You’re are an amazing person! 500 plus days is awesome! I hate that your husband doesn’t seem to give you any credit for how far you have come! I’m so sorry your hubby is blind and stuck in the past.
You got your own thread? I think I would have know if you had your own thread 
I got to get out more 
Congratulations on 501.
My mother always said if you can’t say anything nice don’t say anything at all. So ..I’m glad you got out and the food was good and you didn’t have to do dishes.
Dear friend, I love that you enjoyed the dinner besides bullshit people & behaviour.
I know you love your husband, your place and you work your ass off.
Please let me just say: In the unlikely case I would visit you, your personal narcissist would get the same treatment he puts on you. And he would not have a chance to whine or complain. I’m a fucking walking nightmare for psychopaths and narcissists with decades of experience.
For the next 500 super sober days, maybe do a little bit of working on codependency too? 
Happy 501, this reminds me on the Levi’s Jeans I liked very much in my younger years 
I was thing of this too 
And I’m glad I’m on your side 
You are, you all are 
I would bite all fuckers for you
So very proud of you and your 500 days. I too would have thought that your accomplishments would have been acknowledged and praised - very sorry that they were not. WE here all love you and are very proud of your achievements!
The behavior was very selfish and you for sure deserve better. Your roommate being brought on to keep an eye on you is absolute horse shit!
You keep pushing forward and stay strong 
Sending you love and hugs
Your absolute positivity on this forum makes it that much harder to hear about the negativity from your husband.
Congrats on your sober time and thank you for sharing yourself here. Keep crushing your own goals.
Congratulations on 502 days!!! 
Sorry you didn’t get the recognition you deserved. I really think your hubby should 
This brought up a memory. Before I found AA in my first few days of sobriety I visited a recovery program that would split into groups of substance addiction and 1 for codependency. I always wondered what codependency was and surely I was not a candidate. After my education and knowledge grew I do see how I am a candidate and probably have been longer than my actual drunken path. I will definitely work toward more independence in the future. Thanks for being here and sharing your story.
To all of you @Von100 @Cjp @Mischa84 @JazzyS @Dazercat @Steve14 @erntedank @Kareness @TeaCosy Thank you. Truly and sincerely you are the best people I have ever had the pleasure to associate with. I really try to treat everyone with loving kindness not expecting anything in return however I do feel the closest one to me should be my biggest supporter. I know I am his biggest supporter and helpmate. I know so much now that the issues are his and his alone. It just is so hard not take it all so personally.
Today is new day.
Also I better clarify the roommate moving in today as will be part of my daily life now. 2 years recovering addict. They are Involved in their recovery program. Has a real job and a car. We already have bonded. They love animals and nature. I prayed and prayed to higher power to guide me thru this new chapter in my life. Monthly rent paid is and will be a blessing. I am sure I will have to keep up with daily stuff like dishes and tidiness as I do let some shit stack up until the day before hubby returns from work. This is a positive thing. That is me Princess Positivity!
@JazzyS while scrolling for a princess I saw this
Then found this
I love the candy corn in the hair. I think I may have had one stuck in mine before.