Well been a while since I last said anything on here as sobriety is treating me well.
Sober life has more than few hick ups like months down the line you are still dealing with the shit and aftermath that your drinking days and alcolism have caused.
I split from my husband and its been a battle this week. I have found out that he is in a relationship with one of my service users. He decided it was a good idea to introduce my boys to her and have her around them so I have stopped him seeing them again. She is not only a client in addiction but has had her children removed from her care too and the ex expects me to be ok with her around my kids. Itās starting to cause a problem with my relationship with my boyfriend. He has almost walked away from the relationship twice and it really does hurt me to hear this. I am thankful that he is a recovering alcoholic and been sober for two years. When things have been tough heās reached out to the AA teaching. Remembering that it people, places and things and accepting what he can not change. Iām so worried that regardless he may walk away and I will have to let him while I deal with the ex and him having the boys in a safe way. I have to put my children first and fight for a way for the ex to have them unsupervised.
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Life is tough and I need to find a better way to balance things that are going on, as hard as this is Iām glad Iām doing it sober I would fuck up so many times drunk.
I need the strength of the community, I need tough love and I need prayers going forward
From what I am able to see it sounds like you are handling this so well, able to adapt and respond to situations as they come. No doubt your sobriety and self improvement efforts have been key to this. Though itās outside of my experience what youāre going through, I know it must be so stressful, and Iām glad to see youāre seeking support. Thanks for sharing with us and showing your face here again, youāve been missed. Youāll be in my prayers.
Life has this habit of throwing these curve balls at us when we least expect it Michelle. Facing them sober has always got to be better! I know that you are always going to do the right thing by your boys, no matter the cost to you. Thinking of you and sending you strength to help you!
Iām still good, got lots going on with my paid job, facilitating 2 recovery groups and charity work. Time is always full these days. Plus kids and Iām 4 months into a new relationship with an amazing guy
Try and use it less these days, itās about loving myself as I am how have you been? Iām hoping to do a birthday share next Wednesday at Brunswick in Gloucester
Your thread just popped up on my feed for the first time, Iād just like to say that you must be the strongest person I have ever heard of. Iām pretty sure I would crumble if I had to deal with even a tenth of the things that you have encountered and been put through and on top of that you have managed to pick yourself up and get on top of an addiction aswell.
You are a true inspiration and a total Rockstar, Iām sure this will be the first of many years of sobriety for you.
Your screen name also makes sense now
Thank you, getting sober was not easy and living with sobriety and dealing with life on lifeās terms isnāt easy either but itās the tools that you put in your toolbox to help you through that counts, itās also about who you choose to surround yourself with. I feel very lucky to have a great sober network around me and a fantastic guy who is two years sober too
Iām glad you have a good guy beside you especially after you have had to endure situations with some despicable ones.
I will simply never understand how some men think they can treat women in a way other than totally respectfully, thatās one thing Iāll never be able to display even the smallest bit of acceptance or understanding towardsš
The ex still hates me but I shouldnāt be surprised he left the marriage with exactly what he put into it, nothing. I hope one day that he does find peace and happiness and becomes a better person, I canāt make him have clarity that has to be in his own time
I was more meaning men who have thought they could assault you. ----i didnāt read every part of the thread but I read your first few posts and just had to tell your that your awesome.i know it can be an important stage in it recovery to get to the stage where your can want the best for somebody who has hurt you but itās not easy to get there. Itās really refreshing to read how you havnāt let what youāve been through define you and owning your addiction instead of blaming things for your drinking.
I will be very happy when I get even close to being like that
Mindfulness has helped me a great deal and AA alike, having acceptance that there are things outside of your control and thatās ok. You will get there in time. Just remember itās not a sprint itās more like a marathon
how have you been? Iām hoping to do a birthday share next Wednesday at Brunswick in Gloucester 
but I shouldnāt be surprised he left the marriage with exactly what he put into it, nothing. I hope one day that he does find peace and happiness and becomes a better person, I canāt make him have clarity that has to be in his own time
