# The Feb29ers (Feb 29th, March 1st)
**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602
**Category:** Life in Recovery
**Created:** [March 1, 2020, 2:47pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602 "2020-03-01T14:47:44Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
**Page:** 41
### Author:  [@Marisim](https://talkingsober.com/u/Marisim)
#### Post date: [March 23, 2020, 4:02pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/811 "2020-03-23T16:02:28Z")
@RosaCanDo
Congratulations! What a great success!
---
### Author:  [@Marisim](https://talkingsober.com/u/Marisim)
#### Post date: [March 23, 2020, 4:04pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/812 "2020-03-23T16:04:49Z")
Sober day… Check!
Yesterday was hard. I had terrible headaches but had to work a lot, so I felt totally stressed out and too tired to check in, sorry!
---
### Author:  [@AnonymousD](https://talkingsober.com/u/AnonymousD)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 7:51am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/813 "2020-03-24T07:51:50Z")
I had a binge yesterday. Reset my sober clock. Anxeity is just killing me. And my boyfriend might leave me. Right now im waiting to have a talk with him. He is at the toilet and im sitting on the bed. I might have just fucked everything up. Please be there for me today, so i can get through the day
---
### Author:  [@AnonymousD](https://talkingsober.com/u/AnonymousD)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 8:45am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/814 "2020-03-24T08:45:28Z")
Please is anyone there
---
### Author:  [@anon13078412](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon13078412)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 8:49am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/815 "2020-03-24T08:49:42Z")
Are you okay mate?
---
### Author:  [@anon13078412](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon13078412)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 8:51am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/816 "2020-03-24T08:51:11Z")
You don’t know for certain that your boyfriend is going to leave you,I know that it’s not easy but as addicts we tend to overthink things so please try to not let your mind to through the worst case scenarios 🙂
---
### Author:  [@AnonymousD](https://talkingsober.com/u/AnonymousD)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 8:54am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/817 "2020-03-24T08:54:12Z")
I try. No im not okay im ruining my life and im disgusted by myself. I feel so much shame and guilt and i dont know what to do.
---
### Author:  [@anon13078412](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon13078412)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 8:58am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/818 "2020-03-24T08:58:00Z")
It’s time to double down and have a good read around the forum.
Have you developed yourself a sober toolbox yet? How have your been doing this, have you just been trying to not drink which is essentially white knuckling it? I’m not asking to criticise you, if I know these things then I can help you make a plan so that you don’t stumble again.
Please bear with me and I will share what is in my sobriety toolbox. 🙂
---
### Author:  [@anon13078412](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon13078412)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 9:05am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/819 "2020-03-24T09:05:00Z")
I understand that your feeling Shame and guilt right now but I need you to try and move past that, yesterday’s binge is done unfortunately we cannot change yesterday but that’s okay, today is all we have.
I believe that you live in Europe? If so that means that you are in a similar time to me here in the UK. When I get to in the morning (like now) I do myself a cup of tea, open up this app and catch up with everyone journey here in the forum. It’s good for us to do because we can connect with our forum friends on the checking in thread, do you check in each day? If not then do your think that you can check in every morning please? And could you dedicate a half hour to reading through the threads whilst you have a tea or coffee? 🙂🙂
---
### Author:  [@RosaCanDo](https://talkingsober.com/u/RosaCanDo)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 9:18am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/820 "2020-03-24T09:18:31Z")
I’m sorry you’re going through this right now. @anon13078412 has offered some key suggestions, things I was also going to mention, but more spot on than I could! Definitely been in that low spot, think most of us have, and it’s times like these where I have had to take it moment by moment. Do a search on the forum on relapse, or other key words popping in your brain. Search for the words that are breaking you down in this moment and get some reassurance from what others have written, to know you are absolutely not alone. You can get through this, and come out the other side stronger by learning from this set back and finding ways to cope for the future. Sending 💕
---
### Author:  [@Marisim](https://talkingsober.com/u/Marisim)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 9:21am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/821 "2020-03-24T09:21:55Z")
@AnonymousD
Oh no! I’m here!
---
### Author:  [@anon13078412](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon13078412)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 9:24am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/822 "2020-03-24T09:24:50Z")
I have gotten the impression that the majority of people participating in this thread here been white knuckling it so it should be incredibly beneficial to them all to create their sober toolboxes. There is plenty of information spread throughout the forum, it’s there for the taking. I get that we are in very uncertain times but if everyone wants to get and stay sober then they need to step it up a couple of notches. It’s nice to see your days adding up @RosaCanDo. 👍🙂
---
### Author:  [@AnonymousD](https://talkingsober.com/u/AnonymousD)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 9:29am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/823 "2020-03-24T09:29:16Z")
I have tried doing antabuse which worked fine as long as i do it regularly. I cant kust bot do this anymore i will end up dying as one remembered to be an alkoholic piece of shit.
---
### Author:  [@AnonymousD](https://talkingsober.com/u/AnonymousD)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 9:32am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/824 "2020-03-24T09:32:08Z")
Im so truly sick of myself. So scared. Bf stil here but he has givin up not believing that this will never come to an end. Have to realize and be known with that i can never drink again never. Not even just a little bit. It has to be a full goodbye to this thing ruining my life
---
### Author:  [@RosaCanDo](https://talkingsober.com/u/RosaCanDo)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 9:33am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/825 "2020-03-24T09:33:00Z")
I hear you. I’m appreciative of what tools I’ve learned from reading what others have to say and have shared here what I’m doing that works for me. What else is there to be done? I believe that current events have been especially challenging for folks, but that doesn’t say one can’t attempt to find and practice new tools, it just means that anxieties are high and in that state it’s hard to do much past white knuckling. Been there! But it absolutely is not sustainable - I hear what you’re saying.
---
### Author:  [@AnonymousD](https://talkingsober.com/u/AnonymousD)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 9:33am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/826 "2020-03-24T09:33:39Z")
I feel so alone and so affraid
---
### Author:  [@RosaCanDo](https://talkingsober.com/u/RosaCanDo)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 9:38am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/827 "2020-03-24T09:38:09Z")
It’s a natural way to feel. You can sit with the feeling and think about how you got there and how never to feel this way again. I think you already said it yourself in a reply up above - it is time to tell yourself that the thing causing this in your life is not worth it. You can make that decision to not drink and you will never have to go through this again. It is simple but it is not easy, as I’ve read other people describe it on here. But it’s damn worth it to not feel this again, am I right? You have the power within you! We all do. Think about what @anon13078412 has said about focusing on what tools you can use to keep you sober when things get difficult so you don’t have to suffer through it as badly.
---
### Author:  [@AnonymousD](https://talkingsober.com/u/AnonymousD)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 9:40am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/828 "2020-03-24T09:40:06Z")
I know but i really dont get why i put myself and people i love through this again and again and again. How stupid can one person be
---
### Author:  [@RosaCanDo](https://talkingsober.com/u/RosaCanDo)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 9:43am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/829 "2020-03-24T09:43:25Z")
The addiction is insidious and baffling, the why is not as important as the how you will overcome. You can deal with the “why” with addiction therapy possibly, but ultimately it’s your brain on booze, it takes over any rational thinking we have and puts us in a place where we could hurt the people we love most. It’s not us at our most core being, our humanity. I truly believe that. It’s like the old commercial says, “this is your brain on drugs.”
---
### Author:  [@Marisim](https://talkingsober.com/u/Marisim)
#### Post date: [March 24, 2020, 9:45am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602/830 "2020-03-24T09:45:18Z")
I’m working on mine
[Previous page](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602.md?page=40)
[Next page](https://talkingsober.com/t/the-feb29ers-feb-29th-march-1st/83602.md?page=42)