Yes!!! As I’ve heard it out in the past, “Don’t ‘should’ on me,” hahaha. It’s not about what we “should” do, which implies some kind of judgment of rightness or a moral judgment, but it’s about what we want to do or what we get to do, like you said, our choice. It gives us back our agency to make decisions which in turn gives us our power back. Great point!
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@SoulSearcher
I got prescribed a sleeping pill that won’t you get addicted to. It’s actually an antidepressant that proved to be more effected as a sleeping aid.
It helps me fall asleep very easily, but since I stopped drinking it’s not very effective any more
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I have tried a couple of those. Trazodone and amitriptyline. They actually make me feel worse because I can’t sleep but then the next day I am so groggy and I can’t focus. I’m doing so much better not taking them.
Yes it’s tradozone
You should! It’s really a comfort for me watching you guys getting better every day. Today I’m not like you.
Just got the notification, day 13 goal reached. I’m not proud today.
Aw, my day is getting harder too. Hubby is home tonight which usually means we drink.
I let you guys down big time. Was having the hardest time, so I grabbed a bottle of Vodka and took a few sips. I flushed it down to the toilet, but I needed it, my feelings were killing me. Big fat failure. I let your guys down.
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No you didnt! We are all in this together. Don’t go down that path. Think about what you achieved this far and the community you have at your fingertips - support without judgement.
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This is not about letting anyone down. We are doing this for ourselves. We get support from each other, yes, and it’s a beautiful thing, but your choice is for you alone. We aren’t here to judge, and we do not want to open the door to guilty feelings by thinking we are here to be sober for someone else. It’s for ourselves.
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Your honesty is so important, and your commitment to being here and coming back for support is commendable. Pick yourself up and start fresh. What lesson can you learn? How can you learn to manage the emotions you are feeling without turning to alcohol? What other resources are out there that can help you learn to cope? Strong emotions can be sooooo challenging to handle alone.
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I’ve only took a like three shots. But I destroyed everything in this group.
Maris, it sounds like you are dealing with some really challenging emotions and piling on yourself by adding guilty feelings on top. It isn’t necessary and you’re just bringing yourself down more. No need to feel bad on our account. We are all dealing with our own shit! We are here to support each other. But we have seen you be successful for 13 days! And you can do it again. Believe in your ability to do so. I believe in you.
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Maybe I should stay away from this group, you shouldn’t be tempted the way I did
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There is no reason for you to stay away. We make our own choices. You are just as much a part of this as anyone else. I hope you can find some peace, take some deep breaths, and use the tools you have worked hard on to recenter yourself. Take a restful nap, a long bath, cuddle with your pup, or a long walk. Whatever you need to get outside of your head for a moment. At least, these are ideas that have helped me before.
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Stay with us, lady! You have so much to offer. You can do this. A slip up is just that, a temporary slip, if you decide that is what it is for you and get back on board your recovery. Sending you a big hug and positive vibes.
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If recovering from addiction of any kind was easy then this forum wouldn’t exist, you havn’t let anybody down and the fact that you managed to stop when you did and get straight back on to here and be honest about your slip shows bravery and growth, growth because in the past you would not have been able to stop when you did and get straight back in to abstinence. I hope you don’t leave this group you have all formed. The aim of this place is to support eachother through the good times and the bad. You are right where your meant to be. 
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I need say good bye dear friend
. I am just about to say that I need support
Why? Because you had a stumble? I had one about six weeks ago after over 150 days of continuous sobriety and I know that then the best place for me to be was here. Recovery is not a straight line nor is it simple or easy.
Please stay and let us support you, sleep on it as I’m sure you will feel a bit better tomorrow when it is less raw.
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@Marisim Don’t you dare lady!! Look at the responses in this forum. Pick yourself back up, make better choices tomorrow, and let’s make a better plan for the next time you get so stressed.
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I couldn’t agree more, for me this is the whole reason for the existence and need for a place such as this. We are all here for eachother through thick and thin.
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