Also. Sober can feel so shitty because you are not numbing or avoiding the hard things in life. You are confronting them head on. It is how you learn to do this that will really be how you stay sober, what will you do to deal with all the hard feelings instead of picking up the bottle?
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Thanks for sharing and for giving your view on my thoughts/feelings. Its not that i think it will do any better drinking at all its just im alone in this shit (pardon my language, im just very hurt). People making distance or leaving you is just the last thing one needs when being on the lowest part of your life and eventhough thats what people do. When you need someone the most they turn their back. And when you need people to believing you they dont. Im still sober no worries there, but im hurt, sad and angry, of course im not blaming people for my addiction im just sad of their actions when knowing
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Those are all natural feelings, Iām sorry you are feeling them so strongly, sometimes it doesnāt matter what anyone saysā¦for me anyway (I can be really stubborn sometimes!) but sitting with the feeling is all we can do. I think itās a good step that you are recognizing how you feel and putting names to those feelings. The next step for me has been to try and figure out what to do next. Sit with it as long as necessary, but my question is always, what next? What am I going to do with this feeling? Write about it? Tell someone (which youāve done, awesome!) or decide what is helping me or what is hurting me and what I alone have the power to do. We canāt change other peopleās minds by force, but we can show them a new side of ourselves. I hope you feel less alone by coming and sharing here.
@AnonymousD We also canāt read other peopleās minds or know why they might be distancing themselves, if indeed they are. Checking in with people you feel are distancing themselves might help you to know more instead of guessing. I know that in early sobriety I am hyper sensitive and have taken things to mean something when it was not meant that way.
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Just keep doing what youāre doing; the truth of what youāre doing will show in time.
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Thanks alot dear Rosa. Im not sure what i will do next with these feelings. I actually dont know what to do. I just seemed stuck with them. So i decided to sleep and afterwards took a shower. And now im back on the couch feeling my stomach hurting and some kind of pressure on my lungs/heart (hard to tell what that is) pretty uncomfortable. Before i went to have a nap i felt dizzy and really strange in general. Thanks for taking the time to read and answer me. And that bingo picture is great i think i will do three each day
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Back to day 1. Didnāt get black out drunk, but did drink. Not beating myself up about it. I had more sober days in a row than Iāve had for many years. Happy about that and moving forward!
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Next time you have a craving or feel like having a drink maybe try reaching out on here first. Doubt this was a game changer for me.
In the first couple of days of me being here I was advised to NEVER CRAVE ALONE!. I canāt quantify just how much and how many times that had helped me to stay clean! 
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Thank you!
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Back to day 1 everyone. I had a lot (4 martinis) last night and feel shitty today. I canāt be binging like that anymore. Feeling really low at the moment but I am looking forward to getting back on the bus. I definitely used alcohol to dampen emotions over the last 2 weeks and reflecting on my binge last night, I see that it was a long time coming. Iām owning it and ready to move on.
Welcome back you two. Lovely to hear from you. Hope you are feeling Better and ready too give it another go - you can do this 
I think every one has have a hard time during these hard and different times.
Much love to all of you @SoulSearcher @Maria @Marisim @anon43625156 @RosaCanDo
Day 11,5
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thats awesome! ! !
go go go! ! !
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Hope you are doing good wrote about your relapse- you okay?
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back at day 1 again with you. jumped of the wagon willingly because of some bad news and emotional decisions. of course does not help at all. only that after days of not sharing here and only reading I now talked and see the change again immidiately. you are such a strong power all together. so we will just start again. distracting myself working in the garden a bit and getting throught this day accepting the anxiety that always comes with early days. with you @Journey1
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yes yes 3 days ago i relapsed. it started with weed and ended in alcohol
im ok 
thank you for asking
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Good to hear from you! Yes we can do this. Iām more determined than I was before, something clicked yesterday. I made it to 14 days straight last month and want to do better. My plan for today is to do some chores around the house, cut up a bunch of veggies for the upcoming week, do some laundry - just a couple little things to keep me distracted. Will probably dig into a book and Netflix at some point but for now Iām browsing the groups. Look forward to continuing the journey with you!
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Thanks for the warm welcome, glad to be back!
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2 sober days done
Beginning day 3. All is well.
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Iām on day 2. Woke up with a slight headache but slept ok. How are you sleeping?
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