Thank you @anon12657779 I really needed to hear that reminder to slow down. I have trouble accepting that where I am is where I am supposed to be. I think I’m scared of staying where I am so I want to keep moving along and not get stuck. I need to pay attention to that serenity prayer. 
watch my video in the checking in thread it might put some perspective on your situation.
Understandable emotions Cristel. Human nature is we want the answer now!
Progress not perfection!
You are doing well. Believe me.
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I can relate to this, but kind of in reverse, maybe 
I am 100% focused on self-care, which means just the basics and so much relaxation.
Unfortunately, my work is stressing me out, even more so now - as it’s falling by the wayside. Not good. So, I guess I’m stuck on self-care and my toolkit, but I’m ‘stuck’ there. … if that makes sense.
Coming to the end of day 16, so it’s still early. I’m praying for the energy to get the work element back on track.
Love all of your posts by the way!!!
Take care 
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Taking a break for a month, he’s still doing good 
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Lead with love. Only speak if necessary. Do a lot of listening. That usually works with my daughters.
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I’ve been more intentional about self care but feel guilty if I think I’m doing too much. I’m a mess.
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Cate.
Hello lady!
I would say that my self care was similar to yours.
3-4 months solid just doing the basics.
At the end of the day what the most important thing to us at this moment.
Sobriety yes. And nothing should be put in its way.
Good to see you back.
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I’m sorry Cristel. I’m of zero help as I think I’m a mess too. I can’t get the balance right … yet
It’s too easy to over think our emotions only when you can accept everything for what it is will you find peace. Honestly as soon as I think something is going to bother me I just accept it. I don’t mean to go on but that is what has made the change in me that you say you notice in my words, the exact day I first prayed as well as strength and courage and forgiveness I prayed for acceptance and for me this has been the most important thing. If I was going to reduce the serenity prayer down to one word then that’s what it would be.
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Well we can be a mess together. 
No worries. We’ll get through this!! One day at a time. I’m at the grocery store now and I’ll be buying some cake to help my mood. 
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I have control issues. I want to be in control. But control is just an illusion I’ve bought into. I have no control over anything. That’s why God exists for me. I just need to surrender everything. Appreciate you. 
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Thank you Geoff @anon12657779 
I need to focus on positive thinking. My negative thoughts are having a rave party in my head. The f*^**kers!! 
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I will join you with the cake … with ice-cream too!! It’s part of my toolkit 
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Totally surrender it you don’t have to carry the burden, you’ve already done the hard work, you are sober now it’s time to enjoy it.
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We finished up. We are pausing counseling. She needs to do some deep trauma work herself on her own. For the first time I don’t feel pain. I am okay with the distance and the no involvement.
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He is taking a break for awhile.
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Hello everyone
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