The Real Red Derek Diaries of Syracuse


#1989

It’s rough on the feels… I know how it felt with me and the baby sibs through the years, I can only imagine what it’s like as an actual parent.


#1990

Funny part is she’s not technically my kid, and me and her mom aren’t technically together anymore. In fact we didn’t talk for like two weeks, but we are in a better spot the last couple days. We have like this weird open relationship thing going on right now. We’ve become intimate again, but tonight is her night to stay with her ex-gf, or current, hell I don’t know lol. Her ex and I don’t get along at all, but we are all going to try and clear the air tomorrow. And hopefully be a big, happy, albiet fucked up, family.


#1991

Pffft you’re being a dad to her, who cares about technicalities. The connection is real.

That is quite the interesting situation. Glad things are looking up, it sounded like things were pretty stressful. My crazy messy beautiful family put us all through a lot, but making it through the transition was so worth it.


#1992

Derek - don’t fight the instinct to go lay in her room. You probably both need that comfort these days.


#1993

We ended up walking laps inside the apartment for like 30 mins. She went right down after that


#1994

I know those laps well.:hugs:


#1995

So familiar…


#1996

She never sits still!


#1997

Sweetest elf ever…


#1998

The beard is strong today!


#1999

So I reached out to Shays ex today to try and clear the air. I have accepted that for the time being the ex is going to be a part of her life. Shay wants us all to be able to get along because in the end the baby is coming and if the ex is going to be around then we do need to get along. I told her that we both love Shay and that Shay loves us both and we need to be able to communicate if we want whatever this arrangement is to work. She responded by saying “okay”. We are all going to sit down as a group soon and talk things through, which I feel like is a good idea. I promised Shay I will be support her no matter what. If her ex can’t handle that, then that is something they are going to have to work out.


#2000

Ummm…is this the one whose boots you burned?


#2001

Hahahahha I forgot all about that, but yes.


#2002

MoCatt forgets nothing.:wink:


#2003

Offering a DSW gift card may be a good place to start…

That’s solid, Derek. Good on ya.


#2004

Yeah, not going that far. But it is important to keep the peace.


#2005

So the ex and I (she will get a name eventually) have actually had a pretty productive conversation. I still really would prefer that she just not be around at all, but that’s not the reality I am facing. So in the mean time I think things are going pretty well and that’s good.


#2006

Hopefully things will get better and who knows what the future holds, can we have a vote on a fictional name for the ex :joy:


#2007

All names are fictional unless stated otherwise. She hasn’t earned a name yet though.


#2008

Ha. I’ve been trying to catch up on this thread. #daunting