Good morning all. I am really in need of your help, thoughts, advice & good vibes this morning. I am on day #48 today (alcohol)…(I’ve never made it more than 3 days…this is my 3rd attempt to quit). Honestly, idk how I am still going right now. I had a complete & total breakdown last Tues. I have not only wanted to drink, but self-harm (I haven’t yet done either).
A friend passed away last Monday…I missed the funeral…my job basically gave me an ultimatum (pick…job or funeral). I need my job so I couldnt leave (It’s a new job…I started about a mth ago…not only did it take a while for me to find this job…its a very stressful one. I left my last job for personal/professional reasons). I am hurting bc I missed the funeral.
I got all set up & registered to go back to school full time while I’ll be working full time (got accepted to an MSN-FNP…Nurse Practitioner program)…have been dealing w/financial aid…I am sick of it all & keep telling myself I will fail anyway & I just need to back out/give up.
There are other things on my mind driving me insane…but these are the 2 biggies right now. Ever since my breakdown last week I feel like literally all I think about is how badly I need/want a drink. I cry…a lot. My friends are all worried for me to be alone…so they’re constantly asking if they need to come stay the night. I love my friends for caring so much, but I feel like I am a burden or just weighing them down/holding them back from things that they need to/should be doing. I feel like I am an adult & I should be perfectly ok on my own. I almost just want to yell out that I dont need a babysitter even though I know that’s not what’s going on & everyone really just wants to help me. I just start to shut people out & go into this mode where I isolate myself from everyone/everything.
I know that as soon as I take even the smallest sip I will be done for. I keep telling myself it’s not worth it but its beginning to feel like the urge/want is so overwhelming that I just dont care anymore. I’m just so stressed out. I cant afford to see my therapist right now unfortunately. She does still email/txt/call to check in once in a while as I have been seeing her since I was a teenager.
If you felt like you were going to give in:
What triggered you in the first place?
What stopped you/changed your mind?
Is there something specific that you do when you have urges on days that are stronger than others?
If you did give in:
How did you feel as you made that decision…was it even thought out… or did you just instinctively grab the bottle not caring anymore?
How did you feel after? Did you choose to seek out sobriety again…or did you binge?
What did you do differently or change to help yourself to aim for sobriety again?
Also, if you have any sort of sponser…how long have you had that person there for you? What made you decide to go that route? How did you choose that person? Is it helpful to you…if so…how? I feel like I would overwhelm said person and the thought just makes me sad. I just find myself wondering more about it lately.