Im on day 11 today, and i feel strong about everything. But yesterday i almost slipped…i like to do things for my wife, so she asked me to pour her a glass of wine, without even thinking about it i poured her glass of wine and almost took a sip. But i didnt! These urges are getting alittle bit more intense the further i adventure into sobriety. Jist dont want to lose focus and have my brain tell me that my drinking wasnt that bad, so its alright to have a few. Just need some pointers to get through the urges.
You’re wife knows you’re quitting right? Then she should handle her own alcohol from now on. I wont even buy any alcohol for my man if I’m going out and itd be more convenient for him. There is no reason for me to be in a liquor store or beer isle. Now he normally keeps his bottle in his car or hidden away from me. It honestly doesn’t bother me that he drinks, bc I was the problem, but I’m glad he got into the habit. If seeing it around is sparking that urge you should talk to her about it. I’m sure she’ll understand.
I agree with @LCarlson92586, your wife should handle her own alcohol. She should be considerate enough not to expect you to even touch it. I won’t even go to the liquor store for my husband no matter how convenient it is when I’m already out. He can get up and go himself.
After years of being attracted to something it’s perfectly normal for those fleeting thoughts of wanting to take a drink. We’re trying to break a habit years in the making. We have to be extremely careful that a split second decision doesn’t trip us up. When my wife said she was doing a night shift the other night… I thought … I could take a few beers without annoying her… I didn’t… but I couldn’t believe that the thought went through my head when I really want change. It’s because I done that so many times before that it was normal for me to think it. I guess it will take time to break those old habits… and develop new ones.
She knows im quitting, but now i just to tell her to handle it on her own. And there is no way i could even go into a liquor store or anything like that.
Hi have u tried aa meetings they really do help and it’s good to be around people who understand what we are going through. X
Havnt made it to AA yet, planing on soon.
I’m so pleased your gonna give it a go . It changed my life x