Thing you've been late for/missed because of substance use

I just missed my second child’s birth because I went on a 4 day meth and booze bender instead of going to the hospital.

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I missed a lot of opportunities because I’d rather get drunk than isolate and focus.

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How are you feeling about it?

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Missed a huge party because I was holed up in my apartment binging on porn.

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Me too. Multiple times.

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Well man,it’s good you realise this. I was doing lines in the hospital when my first daughter was born. Going on drug runs leaving her mother home to take care of her. Days I wouldnt even show up to work, doctor appointments. God idk what didn’t I miss while being drunk or coked out. You literally miss everything the world has to offer when we are fucked up

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My granddaughter’s 1st birthday party because I was too hungover.

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Not particularly awesome. I wanna make things right.

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I missed 3 children grow up but on a lighter note I was in a pub and suddenly remembered I had to be somewhere and was late so I put my head down and ran as fast as I could, I swear i had never seen that lamp post in my life but I bounced head first off one slammed backwards into a wall and slid down it like in the cartoons, people loved it.

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You’re a :clown_face:. Hope you can see your kids and have a future with them.

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it’s happening, sobriety has brought us together, after 20 years I now talk to them nearly every day :grin::grin::grin:

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You can do that! I missed my daughters 7th Birthday party this year as I went on a 48 hour alcohol binge . . . you need to forgive yourself, you messed up but you can put things right starting today :+1::+1::+1: hang in there :crossed_fingers:

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Time. Time wasted on getting nothing done but drinking.

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Missed a few family gatherings in 2019. That was my brother’s last year in this country. He, his wife (my awesome sister-in-law) and their son (my nephew, the light of my life) immigrated just over a week ago. I missed the opportunity to spend a lot of time with them. Even when I was there, I really wasn’t. I was constantly high.

I also missed weekly gatherings with my group of friends, they reminisce all the time and I can’t join in. All I can do is ignore the pain as I listen to what I missed out on.

I’m trying harder this year, but I was gone so long, I feel like an outsider…

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I missed out on a social life all of my teenaged years. Missed out on highschool. Late for countless appointments. Friendships. Jobs

I almost lost the love of my life but for some reason she never gave up on me. Almost missed out on a mom dad sisters
I cant seem to get incontact with my brother

Sobriety patches helped so much

5 days sober
Cutting down on ciggs. Only had 4 today

I got to keep it up if i want to keep those life gifts

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Your very strong willed
Give sobriety a chance and see how you feel. Its worth it

Wow thats some stuff

I hate alcohol and drugs. they tricked me

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My 2Os and 3Os. Missed out on them.

But that sux man. I was drinking in the hospital room when my first was born. It took a long time for my wife to forgive me for that one.
But she did forgive me. Because I made up for it by becoming a better version of myself. A sober version. Now if I play my cards right, my 6 year old and 2 year old will never even see me drink.

Just get sober man. It’s a better life.

And congrats on your little one :+1:t2:

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Life and time. Lots of time.

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I’ve been working on this recovery thing from age 16-35 but I missed out on the most time from age 16-28. I’ve lost numerous jobs and
friendships over addiction and have been in trouble with the law. Wasnt around for special family events and for the passing away of my grandparents. I missed out on life. During that time I lost my self respect and self esteem. I wish I could go back in time and give myself the chance to have fun and learn and grow and experience life like a “normie” lol but that didnt happen. Everything happens for a reason they say. I may not know what that reason is right now, but things do. I cant focus on the past and dwell in it, bcuz that would just bring me down. How useful would that be for my recovery? I made amends with my grandparents who passed and I’m now around for all family events/celebrations. I’m not just physically there but I’m really THERE. There emotionally and mentally too. I’ve held down my job for 5 years so far and am a productive member of society. I’m still new in recovery again and even tho I’ve improved alot as a person, I’m trying not to make more mistakes bcuz of my addiction.

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