Thoughts on helping with partner who drinks in front of me

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Are you affected by a loved one who’s an addict?

Have you been affected by someone else’s drinking or them doing drugs? I have. We may be parents, children, spouses, partners, brothers, sisters, other family members, or friends, of alcoholics or drug addicts. No matter what our specific experience has been we share a common bond: we feel our lives have been affected by someone else’s drinking. I have been wanting to start an Al-Anonish type topic here ever since I joined Sober Time and TS. This is not Al-Anon. I do highly recommend Al-Anon …

Welcome Grimmy
I feel you my friend. My wife and I were drinking buddies forever!
At 60 I thought I had had a good run and fat drunk and hungover was no way to go through my bronze years. I found this app 01/02/2020 and I been sober ever since. My wife supports my sobriety but she’s made it clear she gonna drink. At first I was so focused on my sobriety it didn’t matter what she or anyone else did. I was done drinking. The more sober time I got under my belt, her drinking began to bother me. But I wasn’t drinking. When my life became unmanageable, and it did, I finally got to Al-Anon and met many people whose lives are affected by a loved one who is an alcoholic.

I learned changed attitudes can aid in recovery. Mainly my recovery. Al-Anon has given me a new way to look at life and how powerless I am over people places and things. And it has helped save my marriage. My wife still drinks. It’s sad. But I have no control over what she does. I have to let her live her life and I mine.

Al-Anon Family Groups

If I’m focused on her drinking, then I’m not focused on my sobriety.
Courage To Change

I hope to see you around.