# Tips on things to avoid when trying to stay sober?
**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609
**Category:** Advice & Questions
**Tags:** motivation, sobriety
**Created:** [September 9, 2020, 7:35pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609 "2020-09-09T19:35:05Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@Jamesyb](https://talkingsober.com/u/Jamesyb)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 7:35pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/1 "2020-09-09T19:35:05Z")
As stated above, has anyone got any tips? I seem to get sober for a few days or weeks then end up messing up again, so generally hoping for something that could help
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### Author:  [@Eke](https://talkingsober.com/u/Eke)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 7:38pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/2 "2020-09-09T19:38:38Z")
Generally I avoid drinking. đ
Really though, thatâs about it as far as avoiding stuff. I even skipped social gatherings that had booze for a little while until I had some days behind me. What sort of things most often led you to your DOC?
Better than that though, what could you do instead? Stuff that can strengthen your sobriety?
Exercise? Time with loved ones or home projects? Spending time on the forum? Maybe find some recovery meetings to join each day?
What are reasons you want to get sober? Spend more time on those things.
I thought, âwho has time for all that?â at first. But turns out all the time freed from not drinking gave me lots of time to work on sobriety instead!
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### Author:  [@Jamesyb](https://talkingsober.com/u/Jamesyb)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 7:45pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/3 "2020-09-09T19:45:59Z")
Yeah i get you, it seems i constantly end up going back to it no matter what, it seems little things 'convince 'me to go do it
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### Author:  [@Eke](https://talkingsober.com/u/Eke)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 8:00pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/4 "2020-09-09T20:00:01Z")
Sounds like âlittleâ things ainât so little? Or we let them get bigger than we need to.
Like that saying, âDid you really have a bad day, or just a bad five minutes you carried around until you went to bed?â đ
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### Author:  [@anon12657779](https://talkingsober.com/u/anon12657779)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 8:01pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/5 "2020-09-09T20:01:14Z")
Avoid overthinking it.
Learn from the past, how were you feeling, what sorts of things gave you the permission to drink.
Once you have the answer to this you know what to do.
Donât listen next time that voice says itâs ok.
At the end of the day the voice may say it but you are the one acting on it!
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### Author:  [@SassyRocks](https://talkingsober.com/u/SassyRocks)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 8:28pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/6 "2020-09-09T20:28:17Z")
Here are some threads you may find helpfulâŠfull of tips!! Some are not as relevant now with the virus, so keep that in mind.â€
> [@Advice for the Newcomer and Constant Relapser](https://talkingsober.com/t/advice-for-the-newcomer-and-constant-relapser/11064):
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> Sobriety and recovery is a process of walking away from the old days of drinking/using that donât work anymore. Itâs embracing uncomfortable change for the better and deciding to not stay where you were. Itâs learning to love yourself enough to say âI canât live like this anymore and I need helpâ. Please add here the advice that you would like to gives to others. What tips and tricks has worked for your sobriety? What can someone newly sober expect on this journey?
> [@Tips on staying sober!](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-staying-sober/70976):
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> Helpful tips taken from [http://www.cleanandsoberlive.com/essential-tips-to-help-you-stay-clean-and-sober/](http://www.cleanandsoberlive.com/essential-tips-to-help-you-stay-clean-and-sober/) -For your first few months sober, your only goal each day is to make it through without a drink. -Donât overestimate your control over your addiction. Everyone does at some point. -Practice complete abstinence. Donât fool yourself into thinking you can moderate your alcohol intake. It wonât work out in the long run. -Seek out in-patient treatment if you can afford it -Take physical caâŠ
> [@Tips on how to manage cravings](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-how-to-manage-cravings/52886):
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> How do you guys deal with cravings aside the common ones (avoiding alcohol, not having it at home, meditation/excercise)? I woke this morning after the first night of not drinking before bed so refreshed and motivated !! But right now , half way through my day at work, I keep making all types of excuses in my head for me to stop and get some wine⊠tired_facetired_face
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### Author:  [@Jamesyb](https://talkingsober.com/u/Jamesyb)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 8:39pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/7 "2020-09-09T20:39:47Z")
Thankyou i will read through them and see what works for me
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### Author:  [@Misokatsu](https://talkingsober.com/u/Misokatsu)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 8:45pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/9 "2020-09-09T20:45:44Z")
I think u have to analyze ur own triggers. And then prepare against them. Have something to keep ur hands and mouth busy.
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### Author:  [@Matthew\_Dean](https://talkingsober.com/u/Matthew_Dean)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 10:04pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/10 "2020-09-09T22:04:38Z")
My triggers are absolutely anything and everything, i know why they say ring your sponsor even if brake a shoelace. Best thing i found at start was heaps of aa meetings was only place i felt safe and hanging out with other aa members, and just keep telling myself no matter what happens today im not drinking just for today.
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### Author:  [@Knives69](https://talkingsober.com/u/Knives69)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 10:11pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/11 "2020-09-09T22:11:17Z")
Gotta change your playmates, playgrounds and playthings. If you keep going back to the same things, places and friends you had while using, youâre going to wind up in the same routine.
Iâm learning that one myself.
Communication and community is also monumental. Reach out for support, surround yourself with likeminded people, open up about yourself and your addiction. Youâll be pleasantly surprised at the incredible outpouring of love youâll receive, especially in these forums.
Sending love đ€
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### Author:  [@Detroitslim](https://talkingsober.com/u/Detroitslim)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 10:41pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/12 "2020-09-09T22:41:23Z")
Learning to be your own best friend for a while, self loveâŠthose old watering holes, and places and people are definitely triggersâŠDONT BE AFRAID TO BE ALONE! It gets easier with time, noone will understand your journey, so donât look for approval, or donât try to convince or explain to anybodyâŠPeace and love your way
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### Author:  [@Alliecat](https://talkingsober.com/u/Alliecat)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 11:04pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/13 "2020-09-09T23:04:18Z")
For me, in the beginning of sobriety, I had to stay away from the bars I used to hang at and my old drinking peeps. On Fridays after work (when I used to go to an officeâŠ) I would clear out early before the drinkers started making rounds looking for people to go out. I knew I was not strong enough or sure enough about what I was doing to sustain pressure from others and myself. I knew it would be way too easy for me to slip into my old habits.
I was lonely and felt very sorry for myself in the beginning, particularly when I scrolled Facebook and Instagram. I would recommend trying to cut down on those as well as they appear to depict a world of very happy drinkers and are great for making you feel alone when youâre not out with your old social scene.
I made some new habits: fixing a seltzer and lime in a fancy wine glass when I got home from work each night. Taking a walk to the park to watch sunset on Friday nights, etc.
It got much, much easier over time.
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### Author:  [@Rodrigues\_Carlos](https://talkingsober.com/u/Rodrigues_Carlos)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 11:18pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/14 "2020-09-09T23:18:46Z")
What i did:
Dint got out at night the 1st month
Avoided cooffes with drunk people
Always carry a watter bottle
If o had to go out, i only take money for one coffee
DeterminationâŠlots of it.
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### Author:  [@Dazercat](https://talkingsober.com/u/Dazercat)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 11:19pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/15 "2020-09-09T23:19:56Z")
Familyđ€Ș
Seriously. Need ten characters.
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### Author:  [@Thirdmonkey](https://talkingsober.com/u/Thirdmonkey)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 11:30pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/16 "2020-09-09T23:30:25Z")
I had to change. Change people, places and things. If it connected me to alcohol, it was gone from my life.
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### Author:  [@Rkb](https://talkingsober.com/u/Rkb)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 11:35pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/17 "2020-09-09T23:35:41Z")
I like that
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### Author:  [@Tim904](https://talkingsober.com/u/Tim904)
#### Post date: [September 9, 2020, 11:47pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/18 "2020-09-09T23:47:56Z")
People that you consistently acted out with
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### Author:  [@nb2020](https://talkingsober.com/u/nb2020)
#### Post date: [September 10, 2020, 1:24am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/19 "2020-09-10T01:24:58Z")
All very good suggestions!! Thanks guysđ€
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### Author:  [@Biscuits1888](https://talkingsober.com/u/Biscuits1888)
#### Post date: [September 10, 2020, 6:44am UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/20 "2020-09-10T06:44:07Z")
I would use almost anything as an excuse. If I had worked hard then I deserved a wine. If I had a bad day then I deserved a wine. If someone else had a bad day then they deserved a wine and someone to drink it with. If I had a good day then I should celebrate with a wine.
You get the ideaâŠ
Just try and remind yourself how ridiculous you sound when your brain is convincing you itâs a good idea. Itâs not and you donât deserve to let yourself down again. The best way to celebrate is to wake up without a hangover and the best way to get over a bad day is to wake up feeling fresh for the next.
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### Author:  [@Jamesyb](https://talkingsober.com/u/Jamesyb)
#### Post date: [September 10, 2020, 8:24pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/tips-on-things-to-avoid-when-trying-to-stay-sober/98609/22 "2020-09-10T20:24:13Z")
Thankyou everyone for these, im gonna try every single one and see if it works for me and helps its really appreciated thanks so much
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