hey there
i am reading a lot about triggers, i didnt know there was such a thing as the druken me percieved these triggers as a good thing…does anyone find it difficult to reverse their thinking?
for example, a huge trigger for me is “do you want another drink?” “can i get you a drink?” etc. it feels the whole world stops as this question is uttered and i swear i have an endorphin release or something from hearing the phrase. it used to be my favorite thing to hear…its really hard for me to shift geara and my mind starts racing whem i attempt to deflect the offer.
perhaps predetermining set responses will help with this?
what do u guys think and what are your triggers?
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People telling me it’ll be fine, I worry too much, a couple will sort me out - it certainly sorted me out, that’s why I’m here!
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One trigger for me is going to a nice restaurant and they hand me that goddamn wine and beer menu. I have the exact feeling. The whole world stops and I have to give it back right away before I open it lol that used to be my favorite menu even better than the food menu. Triggers suck and I’m still learning how to not let them get The Best Of me but I don’t drink over them. That’s the first step I guess. If the trigger is too strong just walk away who cares if you have to leave the restaurant. It’s your life you are saving.
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And, one day, we don’t need to walk out of the restaurant.
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thank you!! the wine and beer menu is a good one to think about.
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…“come on!!! one wont kill you!” lol
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Money is a BIG trigger for me. Also boredom.
Triggers: sushi, pubs, restaurants with craft beers, other people drinking, color of wine…vegas. lol
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We have to retrain our brains so we can go about our everyday lives triggered by what’s going on around us. Speaking of that my biggest trigger has been being around other people that are drinking. My wife still drinks heavily in the house just about everyday. I also have several friends who drink just about anytime we get together. I used to be right there with my wife at home drinking and with my friends drinking and now that I’m not it’s definitely a trigger. But I’m retraining my brain to see this now as a growing moment in my sobriety.
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This is kind of my mindset. Today we had sushi, no alcohol. Watching people drink is also a trigger for me and I’m not going to tell my husband to stop because he doesn’t have a problem, I do. I like what you said, retraining the brain.
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