Slower day today so just getting started, but remembering as I am writing this that it is one day at a time.I know what the main stressor I need to deal with is and I’ll just need to put up with her in a skillful way rather than running away. I have two and a half hours where I really need to get things done. Use meditation, notice my stressors, and remember one day at a time.
Got up this morning and walked/jogged 6 miles. Feeling urges so came here. Definitely stressed by my to do list so using my blockers. I’ve got three days and it’s one day at a time. Need to put my phone in foyer mode for an hour to ride the wave.
I made it to a week! Definitely feeling stressed, but trying to notice it. Today I’m going to need to use my blockers, put my phone on foyer mode, and remember that I am trying to be a role model for my future kids. I’ve meditated for 15 straight days so I’m going to go do that now.
Relapsed. But, in a way this time feels different. I know what I did wrong and it’s correctable.
Things I have to do differently:
Stat vigilante. I lost my vigilance over the past 48 hours and got complacent.
I need to see my warning signs when I get stressed (can’t focus, stress eating) and TAKE ACTION. Blockers, foyer mode, a meditation, take it one moment at a time, pick one thing and get it done)
Stick with my good habits. Morning meditation and exercise.
Ok. Exhale. Starting fresh. I can do this if I put my recovery first and stay vigilant
It’s been a very stressful weekend of house hunting and the urges are very high. I’m tired and I need to rely on my skills. Blockers, foyer mode, and remembering that my audiobook is due in a week.
I have fallen apart the past two days. Old habits are killing me here. I woke up this morning and spent the past hour sucked into my phone and almost ended up going to worse places. I’m not putting recovery first and that needs to stop. It has to stop. I need to make a grocery shopping list and get some work done. It’s only 7 AM so I have a full day to get this right, but now I know my brain is scrambled. AAAAAAAHHHH.
I’m sorry for the relapse. It is hard to stay on the path when it’s just you again your mind. I see you putting up boundaries and road blocks but what else are you doing? Are you part of a support group in real life? Do you read or interact here in other threads (especially the ones that would help you with your addiction)?
We really can’t do this journey solo. We need support and accountability.
I am not trying to be harsh but also want to see you succeed and I do know that willpower alone will not be the way to make this happen for long term sobriety.
Sending strength as you push forward and make this your day 1.
I reached out in the pmo thread…I woke up with immediate urges and came here. Yea I’m stressed but going on YouTube and the like makes me more stressed. I need to use actual skills today like meditation, going for a walk, blockers, and foyer mode.
No I just meant I woke up with urges in general. I acknowledge that this is a stress response and that is something I can change. I’m closing on a house in 1.5 months…I need to have a different stress response in that phase of my life. Deep breathing, perspective taking, and building a belief that a phone isn’t a coping skill are my starting place today.