I was not assuming any intent, but observing the effect of the word. It’s not a helpful one, imho.
If we seek inclusion, it doesn’t help to start with labeling people as “other,” so much as to take an interest in them. Again, imho.
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Ok, perhaps this is not needed here, but my understanding of it is no one actually was rude to Nicole on either thread.
Everyone’s reply was offering help.
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Understood. But her post demanded a reply, she was not just venting like so many of us do, not expecting a reply.
But it’s cool.
It’s just been on my mind all day. Originally I was not going to get involved.
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There is a lot of talk here about setting the boundaries in our private lives, but shouldn’t it apply to this forum as well? Why is it so bad to stop those who insult the group we are part of – and I’m not talking about excluding them but standing up for ourselves and say no to given behavior in the protection of those who might be triggered or offended? I just don’t get it.
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Rules of the knife fight by Walter Walker. Fast-paced, intriguing, sexy and with a total surprise ending. A courtroom drama, and a fantastic exposition of the knife fight rule. The flyleaf quote has always stuck with me.
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The good news: Eventually the drugs and alcohol will stop doing the things you want them to do.
When I smoked weed I’d use it to calm down and relax. Eventually it led to crippling panic attacks.
When I drank it was to be social and catch a buzz. Eventually my drinking led to me having no friends to drink with and needing so much to get drunk that I never really enjoyed it.
Heroin used to make me feel good all over, but then led to horrible withdrawals after 6 hours.
Cocaine and crack were for energy, until I would just sit in the same place for hours doing nothing.
At first the drugs and alcohol did exactly what I wanted. After years of hardcore abuse they did the exact opposite. That’s good news when it comes to finding the will to quit.
The bad news: It took me 2 decades to get there. Years of abuse that I barely survived, years that many addicts don’t survive.
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If you treat every day in sobriety like you treated Day 1 you won’t have to go back to Day 0.
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I was locked up and sick on day 1! Ok if I use day 2, after I made bail, as my motivator?
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Bet you were pretty desperate on day 1 to never drink again
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I’m guessing Covid has already ruined most holiday parties, but just in case it hasn’t ruined yours, don’t be the thing that does ruin it. Stay home and stay sober. If you are in early sobriety, or feeling something less than 100% confident in your ability to not drink, then you are most likely going to drink at the party. And we all know what happens when people like us drink. There’s going to be nudity, a fight or uncommon bodily discharge in inappropriate places. Don’t be that person. The wheels of commerce will spin on if you miss that work function. Aunt Gloria won’t have a stroke if she doesn’t see you in the Rudolph sweater she knitted for you last year. Your friends won’t miss your offensive humor in Cards Against Humanity. All is well in the world if you miss a party.
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Sneezing?
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Sadly just as dangerous these days.
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And truly, don’t go out anyway. Just keep it at home. Whether you believe the stuff about covid or not, numbers are booming and it’s in direct relation to Thanksgiving.
Don’t be that guy.
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This. Had to spend 15 minutes talking to my therapist about the anger/frustration I’m experiencing because so many in our society are outright selfish and attending parties/family gatherings. It’s literally killing people. If it pisses your family off that you won’t be attending, let them deal with it. You are doing the right and responsible thing.
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Plus you can play cards against humanity online now anyway 
We are obviously staying home. We ate going to make our first round of homemade tortillas by ourselves at home. And make to much food.
We already did Christmas with my girls and sent Ben’s daughter her gifts. So we literally will just eat and watch tv all day.
Food will be prepared for the couple days before so that not much has to be done on Christmas day except finish it off and enjoy 
We may do a meal swap with his dad that lives next door. We know he doesn’t see anyone he drives truck daily. He will make a bunch of mexican food and we exchange meals
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There’s almost nothing you can’t play online now! Weekly game night with friends has been great, and the family’s been doing them for the holidays.
It’s kind of awesome actually.
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It’s funny. Tonight I decided I wanted to wallow in self-pity. I wanted to come here and complain about this that and the other thing. Then I remembered that I’m actually just an ungrateful prick and there’s a lot of people out there who would love to have my problems today. Hell, 3 years ago I’d never dream that I could have these problems.
Stay grateful. Stay sober.
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That’s funny because I got on here to vent.
Then decided I wasn’t going to because my life is actually pretty awesome compared to some even with whatever I wanted to vent about.
3 and a half years ago my little problems wouldn’t be my problems because I’d be drunk probably getting my ass beat😂
So I got that going for me. Definitely trying to remember what I’m blessed with.
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Don’t post on here and ask for help if you aren’t going to bother replying or keep checking in.
Be accountable and take responsibility in your own recovery and engage with others who offer advice and guidance
So many on here post a topic seeking help and disappear never to be seen again
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When the answers don’t match what they really wanted then the easiest thing is to simply ignore everything and continue on with their slow-motion car crash
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