We all know every good story has a hero and a villain. But what about the 3rd choice, the victim?
The victim can either transform into the hero, or remain the victim. Don’t remain the victim.
Movie buffs can back TF up because I know that’s not always the case 
IDK, don’t victims get killed off in the first 10 minutes? 
You know what. That analogy still works
As previously mentioned I’m not a new year’s resolution guy, but I do know a thing or two about goal setting, which is basically a resolution.
This summer I decided I was no longer happy with my weight gain so I decided to take concrete action to lose weight. I downloaded MyFitnessPal, I diligently tracked my food, I started exercising even more and being conscious of what I ate. At first it was tough but as I followed my plan it became easier.
I’ve now done this routine for 196 straight days, without fail, every single day. I’ve lost 50 lbs and I’ve been able to maintain that weight for almost 2 months because I am taking action.
To achieve my goals I take action. Every. Single. Day.
I didn’t download an app and only check in periodically to bitch about my weight and then disappear for 3 months only to return and bitch about being fat. I didn’t reach out for help only to ignore the advice of the experts. If I knew how to not be fat I wouldn’t have been fat in the first place. Lastly, I didn’t keep doing the same things I did when I was fat and then act confused when I didn’t get skinny. And even after I got skinny, I still put in the work. Every. Single. Day.
If you read this and didn’t figure out it applied to sobriety go back and read it again. If you still can’t figure it out, ask someone. If you can’t take those two basic steps you probably also won’t be to achieve sobriety.
Enjoy your new year’s resolutions.
Heck yeah, mate. Congratulations!
Weight loss is most definitely the very definition of daily work and continuous effort.
50 lb is serious work.
This makes me happy. Great job 
My program says I only my need twelve steps, but my fitbit says 10,000 per day. WTH?
Every victim also has prime conditions to become a villain aswell. “We were abused and we became abusers.” This makes it heroic in a whole new sense of the word to step out of victimhood, for me.
My fitness pal helped me to lose 40 pounds this year as well. I logged on everyday. It was simple. Just had to use the tool. Well done, Derek.
50 lbs gone is strong.
Good work Derek. And thanks for the incentive. For me this is about weight loss 
This increases my empathy with villains. A person’s character is shaped by myriad events, circumstances and reactions. That character is rarely one dimensional. This is not to say that I do not judge. I do condemn and condone. But in doing so, I can easily and quickly lose sight of those tendencies in another that are contrary to my judgment.
How many times have I downloaded MyFitnessPal only to delete it a few weeks/months later? Probably as many times as I downloaded and deleted Sober Time!!
I guess I could use a sobriety phrase often used here to explain why I still haven’t lost the weight….I still got some eating (and sitting) to do!! 
Truth and tough love, another of my go to threads 
… I get a bit fearful before I see the thread to find out what @Englishd has typed to make me see in my self !! 
How do you think I feel since there’s a big chunk of me in every one of my posts .
It’s easy for me to form examples from my two half assed attempts and 20+ years of making every wrong decision possible.
I get to relive that every time I post here. But I also get to remind myself that once I pulled my ego inflated head out of my ass that recovery is possible for anyone if they want to go out and get it
Bro you got something against tomato, salami, and moldy-ass bread sandwiches? Some of us have a bit of culture you know.
That’s a very humble comment and i see it differently now from your point of view. 
I have a beautiful baby grand piano sitting in my living room. I never learned to play the piano. I’m not a piano player. I am a piano owner.
Just goes to show that we are all the same. The fact that many people here see themselves in these posts proves it.
