Savor moments of clarity like these. These are what carry you through on notsogoodverybad days.
Yesterday I walked into a mall on my lunch break. All I wanted to do was take a piss and get some lunch. On my way to the food court, this young lady at a cosmetic kiosk hands me a sample of aftershave balm. 30 minutes later I’m walking out with a facial and a bag full of stuff for me and my wife, wondering why I was hungry, and still having to piss.
I can laugh about it. My wife can too. And we can afford the indulging, because I don’t drink.
This morning I get a notice that the reigning world Lethwei heavyweight champion will be conducting a training seminar about 45 minutes away from me. I immediately signed up, as this would be like getting golf lessons from Tiger Woods. I can afford it because I don’t drink, and martial arts are part of my sobriety program.
So yeah…sobriety is awesome. No way I would be living this life, if I still drank. I’d likely be divorced, living in a crackerbox apartment, maybe unemployed, with a family that wants nothing to do with me.
That affordability thing is just awesome. I realised as I was reading your post that I don’t know what my bank balance is at the moment. At one time I would have avoided looking at it because I didn’t want to see how close to the wire I was getting ahead of payday. Now I know all my bills are covered so I just don’t have to check it. What a wonderful thing.
Anyone having any success with moderation? I’m always curious to hear a success story. I’ve been asking for quite some time and no one ever seems to respond.
They one of us or normies? Something like 90% of the population can moderate. I’m talking about alcoholics, or addicts, to see how their moderation is going.
My friends can drink like that, but when it’s time to stop they have no problem either. They don’t have to get up and drink before work. If you’re husband can’t stop or needs it to function I’d say moderation isn’t working.
He can stop and does not need it to function, but he definitely does have an alcohol abuse issue. It is quite fascinating really. He seems to lack that super addictive thing. Good lord, he could do a gram of coke and then stop…nuts. Or smoke cigarettes for a few months and stop. He also drinks about 6 or so double tequilas a night most nights. He never needs to finish a bottle and never had to drink to function.
My hub, who has been drinking alcoholically all his adult life is currently “moderating” because he relenquished his debit card. But given the $, he will drink it all.
In the past, after my drinking became a big problem and I’d quit for many months I would have a few drinks and then not again for many more months. But eventually, I’d be back full force and then some.
I know a few people who have successfully went from drinks in the morning, at work, to moderation. Both have DUI’S, both have lost jobs due to drink and drugs.
Now that’s just their amount of drinking. They have significantly cut down. They are however still not very happy or positive people without the few drinks they do allow themselves. And they can still mood swing heavily while drinking, and just in general. The 2 I’m thinking of specifically have also had small lengths of sobriety from booze and they were much nicer to hang out with in those time frames, buy maybe that’s just my perception or on me.
I could possibly moderate my drinks, but why? It’s so much easier to just live sober and not have my mood bounce, not have the feeling of need for a chemical cocktail to relax.
More power to anyone who can moderate, they can do them, I will keep doing me.
In the past I could moderate with drugs that weren’t too extremely attractive to me like coke, speed and xtc. LSD and Psilocybin loose their potency after a few times in succession or with me anyway. But with my DOC, alcohol and tobacco, no way. I’m in all the way or out all the way. Pot and hashish are different for me, all that remained as its effect on me was to make me anxious after using lots of it for over 30 years, and still I kept smoking it for quite a while before I finally quit.
If by moderation you mean “presiding over the execution of a task” I can moderate the fuck outta my drinking! From overseeing 2 am runs to the store, handling the logistics of whether my current supply will last until the next available purchase time rolls around, hell right down to doing the manual labor of tilting the bottle up to take each drink, I’m not afraid to get my hands dirty…best damn moderator you ever seen!
