Just read this 
Sorry to hear about this.
Iâve read your story and the replies. Please choose for yourself Ă nd your kids! Iâm worried!
If you do not choose, someone else will do it for you soon. Your kids will end in fosterhome or elsewere. Or someone will get really hurt or worse. Do you want to stay with your husband this way? Grow old together? I donât know how old your kids are, but you have to keep them safe! I have kids age 15, 17 and almost 19. The can make healthy choices, but with a toxic situation like this I would make that choice for them and move out with them. This ends not ok if you keep it this way.
Sorry for me being direct.
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Is there a woman shelter house were you can go to or family care help in you country? Seek help!
Itâs hard but you can do it, you donât have to do it alone! 
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definately looking at all my options. the shelters are far from the kids school and my workplace. i think the closest one is 25 miles so i might look at that one. Thats a day to day intake.
oh and the kids are 15 and 17 (almost 18)
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Glad to hear you are busy making plans! Keep us posted! Come here to vent, it really helps! ď¸
Hang in there! 
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Damn, so sorry to hear this. The protection order should be temporary, is there a hearing scheduled? I would see if the court can appoint you a lawyer so when court comes, you can try ro get back into your own house and get him out. But I have a feeling you may need a defense attorney to help you prove it was an act in self defense. Are there any free abuse help programs there also? So sorry that you have to go through this, damn girl. Youâve got my prayers.
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i made sure to have a social worker meet with me before i left. got some resources from her. looking to see about getting him off the lease. If he is no longer on a lease that is not his residence so I will be able to go home he will have to leave
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Itâs true when they say that whatever doesnât kill you makes you stronger. I have been through a lot in my life and Iâm only 39 years old I can get through this I lived in a tent for a whole summer and became very resourceful and inventive. I didnât want to go to my house with the police yesterday because I want to be prepared before I go there so I have been making a list of all the things that I need to get so that my daughter does not need to be burdened with it
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I did get a lawyer yesterday and I was very pleased with their effort. I was told it was a grant lawyer I donât know what that means but thatâs not the same as legal aid I donât know Iâm going to ask more questions today when they call me back
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Good, I am so happy you arenât taking this laying down girl. Fuck him!! So sorry that you have to go through this but youâre right, and youâre going to be stronger and wiser because of this. Hang on for the ride girlfriend. I wish I was closer to help!
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Glad to here your last posts, things are rolling!
Good for you! 
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I donât even know what to say. I am so sorry. Stay safe, stay strong. Keep us updated. I wish I was close to you. Hang in there.
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Youâre awesome. Itâs a shitty situation, but you donât seem to be letting it get you down, and even though you had a slip the other day you picked yourself right back up and are getting back after it.
I hope things workout out in the best possible way for you soon.
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Day 3.27 @ 3:30 am. Yeah fun times. Just had to meet with the police again. Not looking like things can be repaired at this time. Damn these last three days have gone slower than slow. It feels like at least a full week went by in these 3 days.
Thinking of you AmyBeth!
Really hope things get sorted soon
Telling and wanting him to stop is not in your hands to control. Thats his battle. Obviously even those few sips made you act out. There are many ways u could defend yourself without a fork. U can call and even text 911 now. Lock yourself in a room next time or run to a nieghbors. As long as he doesnt show to court and u take it to trial it will be dismissed. Just be glad it was just over night in jail. Ive done longer for less violence.
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Thank you everyone for you feedback and advise. I appreciate it all, even if it might be something that I dont want to hear at that time. The experiences you have been through are helping me through mine. 
I am so sorry youâre having to go through this, Amy. You were merely defending yourself and are now being punished. Itâs just not fair! I hope that things will turn around quickly and you will have some peace & joy in your life. Good luck & god bless.
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Next time, film him. Film him every time he gets drunk.
Him: " I did nothing wrong. It was all you."
You: " Ok sports fans, letâs go to the instant replay on that. We can clearly see the foul right there, there, and there."
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Got a bunch of my stuff out of the house today with my police escort. so glad a waited a couple days cause i was able to go in and grab everything on the list i had been making and it took me maybe 15 minutes tops. Day 4 in the books again. Goodnight all.
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