# Trying to make sense af all this
**URL:** https://talkingsober.com/t/trying-to-make-sense-af-all-this/192039
**Category:** Your Story
**Created:** [February 5, 2025, 1:44pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/trying-to-make-sense-af-all-this/192039 "2025-02-05T13:44:49Z")
**Posts on this page:** 9
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### Author:  [@Eamonoc](https://talkingsober.com/u/Eamonoc)
#### Post date: [February 5, 2025, 1:44pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/trying-to-make-sense-af-all-this/192039/1 "2025-02-05T13:44:49Z")
Hello everyone, my name is Eamon 65yrs old, I am so glad to have found this group, my relationship with alcohol has been a long one almost 50yrs, when I say that I find it hard to imagine all the wasted time, energy money and countless other things as a result of that. I have a wonderful family, that I hid a lot of things from, outwardly I always kept fit well was always outdoors in the mountains cycled ran but alcohol was always hovering in the baclground, not huge amounts , I alwaus felt in control but I now realise that was not the case, in recet time I was having regular bouts of 4 or 5 cans of beer and driving despite all public warnings about drinking and driving, who behaves like this?? Over the years I was always employed until till last year .Raised 2 great children qho have sadly emigrated. My wife is a great support for me, last July I had a DUI arrest and having to deal with the results of that is proving difficult for me, the shame is killing me, trying to understand all of my past behaviours, I am not sure of myself as a human being, there is so much more I could say, but I hope some of you will understand. Than you
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### Author:  [@LAB](https://talkingsober.com/u/LAB)
#### Post date: [February 5, 2025, 1:53pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/trying-to-make-sense-af-all-this/192039/2 "2025-02-05T13:53:55Z")
Welcome Eamon!
This is a wonderful place to learn all you can about recovery. And today is a perfect day to start your journey and begin to set yourself free from the control that alcohol has in your life.
Read all you can and check in here a lot. I made the decision to become a person who doesn’t use alcohol just over three years ago. I had to change my habits and my mindset. I had to learn new ways to “relax” and “celebrate”. It’s a process, but if you can learn how to do it, you can enjoy freedom and real life!
Have a great day!
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### Author:  [@LAB](https://talkingsober.com/u/LAB)
#### Post date: [February 5, 2025, 1:55pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/trying-to-make-sense-af-all-this/192039/3 "2025-02-05T13:55:43Z")
Make sure to read all this!
> [@What's YOUR plan?](https://talkingsober.com/t/whats-your-plan/177233):
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> If you hang out on Talking Sober long enough, you will undoubtedly see someone, usually one returning from a relapse, being asked, “What’s your plan (to staying sober)?”. While this question may often be rhetorical, it is an important one to answer for yourself. I feel that sobriety has 4 distinct phases that you should plan for. The Pre-quit phase (days/weeks leading up to quitting) The Withdrawal Phase (Day 1 to Day 30) The Post-Withdrawal Phase (Day 30 to Day 90) The Sustain/Recovery Phase…
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### Author:  [@Rookie](https://talkingsober.com/u/Rookie)
#### Post date: [February 5, 2025, 2:07pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/trying-to-make-sense-af-all-this/192039/4 "2025-02-05T14:07:40Z")
Welcome! I can relate too well to your story. There is so much experience and wisdom here, we are glad to have you. 💪🙏🏻
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### Author:  [@Ray\_M\_C\_Laren](https://talkingsober.com/u/Ray_M_C_Laren)
#### Post date: [February 5, 2025, 3:43pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/trying-to-make-sense-af-all-this/192039/5 "2025-02-05T15:43:33Z")
How do Eamon welcome young man ,dont know if youve tried a meeting might help , they helped this old guy stay sober wish you well
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### Author:  [@Dazercat](https://talkingsober.com/u/Dazercat)
#### Post date: [February 5, 2025, 3:50pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/trying-to-make-sense-af-all-this/192039/6 "2025-02-05T15:50:50Z")
Welcome Eamon,
At the age of 60 I found this app. Fat drunk and hungover is no way to go through my bronze years. I’m very active on here. And ODAAT. (One day at a time.) I’m sober. Thanks to this app. I got to AA meetings now and I work on my sobriety every day. Especially gratitude.
Stick with us friend.
This is a great place for support. I could never do it alone.
🙏🏻❤
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### Author:  [@Eamonoc](https://talkingsober.com/u/Eamonoc)
#### Post date: [February 5, 2025, 4:25pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/trying-to-make-sense-af-all-this/192039/7 "2025-02-05T16:25:20Z")
Thanks everyone for the kind words and encouragement, it means a lot to mr
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### Author:  [@Matt](https://talkingsober.com/u/Matt)
#### Post date: [February 5, 2025, 4:27pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/trying-to-make-sense-af-all-this/192039/8 "2025-02-05T16:27:03Z")
Welcome Eamon 👋 😇 lots of good advice above. Talking Sober is a nice place to come together and meet people, and learn about journeys to being healthy (which for us means sober). Welcome to the community!
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### Author:  [@Eamonoc](https://talkingsober.com/u/Eamonoc)
#### Post date: [February 7, 2025, 4:54pm UTC](https://talkingsober.com/t/trying-to-make-sense-af-all-this/192039/9 "2025-02-07T16:54:05Z")
Than you very much Matt