Triggers are being alone, feeling alone, bored, depressed, unwanted, useless or existential.
Usually all of the above.
Friends, boredom, having a good day, having a s*** day, stress!
My spouse.
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Ouch 
I smoke when my spouse stresses me which leads me to eventually drink. Ive been trying to quit smokingā¦ Breaking Black & Molds in half and passing up the store to buy another smoke, but this personā¦ Or maybe its me. Heāll, its gotta be me, but thatās how I cope. If I didnāt smoke, the likelihood of a relapse would be more slim. Just saying. At least I realize that much. Iām not even a regular smoker, mainly when the spouse wonāt listen.
Perhaps, ill just start talking to myself more. I
donāt know.
Being home alone (where i did the majority of my drinking), and stress/anxiety.
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Anxiety that seems to attack for no reason. It would be so easy to grab a bottle and make it quiet. But I wonāt. Not even 3 months in, but thatās time Iāll never get back if I succumb.
Social situations, weekends, celebrations
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Being awake 
It feels like everythingā¦ In my mind, everything became better with alcohol. Stressed? Drink. Relaxing? Drink. Eating? Drink. Socializing? Drink. The only thing that wasnāt seemingly better was being at work (too nervous about getting caught). And hell, if I had worked from home or without direct contact with others, I would have been drinking then too.
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For its after from a long hard day at work and you get home tried and think I deserve a cold beer but it dosenāt end with one or two l have drink the pack
This is what I found helped me. Itās hard. I had to say it over and over and then more but I finally learned.
Acceptance
"And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation ā some fact of my life ā unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
āNothing, absolutely nothing happens in Godās world by mistake. Until I could accept my alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on lifeās terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.ā
*Boredom
*Stress
*When I want to reward myself for doing something
difficult.
*Being tired
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Nicely said. Thank you.
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Anything and everything I wud find any excuse to drink and now I can do the same. Iām 51 days in and finding reasons to drink all the time n then fighting cos Iām finding reasons not too by gum itās a battle sometimes n sometimes easy as peeing yaself
Actually I cannot take credit for it. Itās a quote from pg 417 in AA big book. Oh it pissed me off the first time my counselor said it to me. My thoughts we so self focused. You just donāt know how bad āIā have it lol. I still laugh about that now.
Anything that has to do with my heart being broken (past, present, and future).
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Impulse is the biggest trigger
Impulsivity to compuslion and the relapses
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May sound stupid but loneliness.Been divorced and living on my own 6 years next month. Havenāt seen my boys in I dont remember when . Not having someone to talk to and having nothing to do wears on you.
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Being alone. Itās a terrible feeling. Learning how to deal with that sober is all new to me.
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I donāt have as much of a problem with it now that Iāve developed my system but my first year off I had a massive problem with waking up. The first half hour of every day I used to have the most intense cravings.