I seem to keep posting about this…! But here goes. Sometimes when it is your “stuff” it is hard to see what’s obvious.
I had a really great sponsor for a little over a year. I loved to work with her. I am not someone who has an easy time opening up with just anyone emotionally because they also have to be really smart and intuitive. And I usually have a sense very soon after I meet them, at least after having a couple of conversations with them, that if would be able to do that with them (that intuitive thing I was talking about!). So with my new sponsor, I keep going though things that are difficult for me and not calling her! Which isn’t good.
We haven’t started “working the steps” yet. So maybe a feeling of closeness would “grow” once we started doing them. But I think I should trust my intuition and move on. Any thoughts?? Work the steps regardless of how I feel? Or look for someone new?
As a side note, I lost weight and was in a good place with my old sponsor. I have gained back some of that weight since January and am not feeling as good as I was…
My first thought is I’m hearing a lot about why it won’t work before even getting started.
I had similar hang ups with my current sponsor. Took more cajoling than it should have to get me moving on what he laid out simply before me: The steps as they were taught to him as a suggestion for recovery. So was that on me or on them?
Once I accepted in faith and set to work, it played out better than probably anything I would have imagined. A friendship did form, but first and foremost he became a trusted mentor. YMMV!
