Do people even care if I can? Do they think I’m over reacting? Should I just do what I want? What’s the fucking point. People have their own worries and problems why do I need to burden them with my trivial shit. Or should I just “man up” as they keep saying. Not sure I can or want to do it.
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Feeling so low right now.
Hi there. I’m sorry you’re feeling low. I’m not sure what your question is asking.
What’s the point of sobriety? EVERYTHING. Your life. And of course people have their own worries and problems but sobriety is not “trivial shit”. People who love and care about you will not be “burdened”.
As for “man up”…first I hate that term. That implies that men should have no emotions and men are humans just like women. You have emotions. You have needs. You have cares. So no, don’t man up. But do what you need to do to get the help you DESERVE.
As for “just do what I want”…the question I have for you is “WHAT do you want”…answer that one as truthfully as you can. And then I think you’ll have many of the answers you are looking for.
Keep the faith…faith in YOU.
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Thank you for replying I am a very emotional man I can’t help or change that for anyone. But I need help.
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Just because I’m 6 foot and a big guy people think I should just get on with it
This message board can be your help. If you need something more in person find a meeting. There are people who understand and can help.
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Remember that it helps others trying to remain clean/sober when you talk about your problems and worries. They are not trivial! Someone might be going through the same thing. Reading what you have to say could help them feel not so alone, and ultimately not take that first drink!
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I 
this analogy. 
I feel like this when I watch Intervention. They always do a follow up in a paragraph or two at the end of the episode, and my heart is sad when it says they’ve relapsed.
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Wow man that is awesome. Had a really bad emotional day yesterday but it’s now a week since my last drink or narcotic and it feels great. I know it’s not gonna be any easier but with the help of my kids and my family I know I can do this.
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You got this man! Having kids is the biggest wake up call I ever got. One son but he’s the reason I’m not dead or still getting loaded. There’s nothing wrong with being emotional. Hell some of us should start a band and bring emo back (totally kidding most of that stuff sucked) but our sizes shouldn’t make up for and my excuses. The best hugs I get are from the biggest guys I know. Something about the strength behind you guys just feels warm andnynd honest, though I’ll admit hugging is andnynd recent thing I’ve come to love. I didn’t want to even shake hands with people for fear of touch in any form. You’re on a grat path and the folks here are incredible and insightful as fuck!
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Congrats on one week @Paul_Tracey! We are all here to help each other on this journey. Stay strong and stay connected
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I love my kids so much. Just can’t believe I’ve put them through what I have. But they won’t judge me they just want their daddy back and he is and I’m not going anywhere. And yes us big guys are just as sensitive and caring as anyone. Cheers for the words bro means alot. 
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And you wonderful people are helping me so much I can’t thank you enough. The real me is back. Xx
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Hell yeah man! Our kids need their fathers just as much as their mothers. It sucks knowing we weren’t stable in the beginning but they’re going to understand when they get older. I miss elliott every day and it tears my heart apart but recovery is the biggest help in getting to be the father our kids need. I’m always open to talk about anything and everything any time
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Cheers bro that means everything to me. #realmentalk
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