Hmm… When did I genuinely start admitting to myself that I needed to take change seriously?
I’d say I always knew in the back of my mind that what I was doing wasn’t right, and there was generally a subconscious guilt afterwards and daily half-hearted attempts to stop again, though not serious enough as due to ptsd my life had learned to revolve around it at the time… I knew most of all that it was seriously impacting my everyday life to the extent that I did not much else and felt no hope whatsoever. But as time passed by, my consciousness nonetheless grew too. Philosophy, spirituality and critical-thinking were big parts and necessary steps in my life.
So about 1 year ago, I should have been grand, I had a circle of close friends around me, was going to town or on frequent outdoor and camping trips, was flirting and dating with girls for the first time, had a secure job and was rising up there (with the offer for more)… But that’s where it stopped, because my addictions still existed, and the rift between them and the reality I wanted grew. And everytime I caved in to the old ways, my guilt, depression, anxiety, self-confidence etc noticeably worsened. It could not continue, and I knew it deep down.
I eventually had a nervous breakdown and totally left everything cold turkey. I isolated myself in my room and binged feeling like I was hopeless anyway. Alcohol started becoming the norm to deal with forced social interactions or just to feel ‘good’. Surprisingly at the same time I was undergoing a mental transformation in my mindset that it was one or the other, and I started seriously trying to change everything. Weeks at a time started. But not just that, I was thinking of everything else too like diet, hygiene and sleep… I was subscribed to these manifestation emails by ‘Mind Movies’ which despite being ads actually helped me I admit. I started researching for help and what I wanted like I hadn’t before. It was still an on/off thing though.
At around the ½ to ¾ year mark, I noticed my prolonged isolation was beginning to seriously estrange me. A group of people moved into where I lived, and there was a girl amongst them. One evening we got to know each other more and having not socialized in a while I drank like a literal camel, the rest of the group came, we smoked some weed which I couldn’t tolerate well, and I was still anxiety filled about socializing, never mind flirting after having gone through such a rollercoaster.
Then one thing somehow really scared me: I know I was just pathetically drunk, high and fresh from depression… I was asked a question and started responding but forgot mid sentence whilst doing something, but instead of leaving it there I desperately tried to save face by making up the biggest bullshit and talking on for the next minute or two as if it was the most normal thing. I could see the uncomfortable look on her face, maybe some of the others, who knows, but I had completely lost it and anybody could see through the bullshit I was talking as much as I knew it. What scared me was that all that alcohol, weed and anxiety mixed together had created this me I’d never seen before saying confusing nonesense and backing it up like a madman as if I was saving face… But it was more impulsive or subconscious than I would’ve wanted and it almost felt like I’d been possessed during those few minutes that’s how so not me it felt.
Either way, I was moving out soon after, thankfully Still going through my head was WTF…? That did scare me on a number of levels. But during the months before, I had been consciously trying to work on myself like never before already anyway, and it became so clear that I wanted to change for good once and for all. I didn’t want to wake up under a bridge one day some barking madman who subconsciously floated through life and dug himself a neat grave alone and bitter because I couldn’t admit I had problems which needed addressing. Fuck that, I have a future - and always should have had. It took another month or two before personal development has really taken off. So much in my life that was never addressed… Seeing a psychologist 4 days ago was the nail in the coffin for my journey of enlightenment…
I know my ptsd was what caused such a rollercoaster ride and obsessive addictions, but enough is enough and I don’t need the past to haunt me forever. It’s over.
As trivial as I admit it sounds, it was just the cherry on top of a long chain of events and subsequent realizations that I was taking a seriously dangerous path, and as bright, philosophical and conscious as I interpret myself as being, it can easily be my downfall if I don’t take my life seriously. Nobody from the outside would ever suspect anything wrong with me that’s how secretive it was/is.
My goal now is total recovery. Everything or nothing. I know I’m not crazy. And I know I’m not alone and addictions and ptsd are difficult but not impossible to overcome… Hope to see you around my friend, all the best!