Today I am happy. Today I feel comfortable with my life and with my sobriety. So today I am writing for two purposes.
First, because I know myself and my emotional patterns very well and I know that one day, whether it be within the next week or a few months from now, a powerful feeling of loneliness will descend upon me and push me into an overwhelming pit of depression. In that time I will feel empty, unloved and unlovable. It will be like that feeling is all that I’ve ever known and ever will know. It will feel like heartbreak without ever having known the joy of love. It will be hard to understand why I should stay sober, why I shouldn’t pour a bottle of whiskey into my body just so that I might not feel for a little while. When loneliness hits, it hits hard. So I am writing today to remind myself and to anyone who might relate: that feeling WILL NOT last forever. Regardless of how long it takes, I will claw my way out from under that loneliness, that depression, and when I do I still want to be able to feel pride in myself and not have sacrificed months of hard work and accomplishments for a few hours of numbness. I need to remember that I have found an online community of wonderful, supportive people and to check in, be present and stay strong.
This brings me to my second point: a formal introduction as I have been a somewhat active member of this forum since April and have yet to do this.
My name is Emerson. I’m 25 years old and after 8 years of severe and frequent binge drinking and one horrible night- which, despite reading several stories similar to mine, I am not yet ready to discuss- I began my sober life on February 16, 2018 and fully embraced it on April 5 (the day I joined this forum).
In person I am agonizingly shy, socially anxious and deeply introverted. I’m distrustful, sensitive, have a quick temper and connecting with people is extremely difficult for me. My self-esteem and confidence are both iffy.
However, I am also sweet and very generous (or so people tell me), non-judgmental and I never share other people’s secrets. I’m very smart with an outstanding memory and above average problem solving skills. I believe that I communicate my thoughts and feelings exceptionally well through writing.
I like long walks anywhere but the beach (because I don’t like sand, sunlight or big water), cold weather, reading and writing, food (eating it, cooking it, thinking about it, talking about it), and my dog and his cat.
I love being a part of this forum and want to thank everyone for their stories, support, strength, wisdom, and comedy. I may (or may not) have made it this far in my sobriety without you all, but I would have been without the understanding and sense of community which I badly crave.
So, again, thank you.