"Give up defining yourself-to yourself or to others. You won’t die. You will come to life. And don’t be concerned with how others define you. When they define you, they are limiting themselves, so it’s their problem. Whenever you interact with people, don’t be there primarily as a func tion or a role, but as a field of conscious Presence.
Why does the ego play roles? Because of one unexam ined assumption, one fundamental error, one unconscious thought. That thought is: I am not enough. Other uncon scious thoughts follow: I need to play a role in order to get what I need to be fully myself, I need to get more so that I can be more. But you cannot be more than you are because underneath your physical and psychological form, you are one with Life itself, one with Being. In form, you are and will always be inferior to some, superior to others. In essence, you are neither inferior nor superior to anyone.
True self-esteem and true humility arise out of that realiza tion. In the eyes of the ego, self-esteem and humility are contradictory. In truth, they are one and the same."