My sex addiction is taking time and money out of my life, I just noticed I have nearly as much debt as money and ive never had debt before. I also need to quit watching so much porn like a little would be ok but idk if youre supposed to get sorta sober with something. I need to quit weed too but im just not ready. Id also like to quit my prescription medication but idk if my doctor will ween me off. On top of all this I just started a diet and desperately need to lose 50 pounds. Plus I need to escape so Im doing some other stuff too right now. This is just so much I dont know if I can do any of it.
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You have definitely let the flesh take over the mind.
Welcome to the community! I’m glad you taken the first step towards sobriety. No addiction is easily defeated, but the same techniques apply to all three. The question are you ready to commit to ending them all or just one. That’s a very important you must ask yourself.
Post when you have insight or experience. Ask question if you need help. If you just looking to vent, vent!
If you want advice ask, and we’ll do our best to provide assistance.
Good luck on your journey my friend.
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Thank you very much Shattered dreams. I think im 100% ready to stop spending money on sex and sex related things. As for porn I dont know yet Id be happy if I could limit it in a major way but I know in 6 hours when Im home and bored its gonna be a lot harder than right now. Im going to try my best. Thanks again.
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Don’t get bored. Change your routine, develop your personal interest that aren’t self destructive.
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@BlazingPegasus welcome.
(@KevinesKay) is working a strong recovery with SA and MB, I’m sure he can offer you advice.
As far as all these things you feel the need to work on, pick the one that’s most out of control…that’s affecting your life negativity…and work on that first. You can work on the others later. Do them in order of importance. Don’t overwelm yourself, thinking you need to do it all at once.
Each of us have our own addiction and recovery that we “specialize” in, so reach out, vent, and ask questions.
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You’ve noticed that the things you’ve mentioned are a problem and you want to do something about it. IMO that’s the biggest step on your journey. I’m here if you need anything 
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Great advice @Melrm. The idea of prioritizing the many facets of recovery is something that hadn’t really occurred to me!
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Hi @BlazingPegasus. Many of us out here have multiple addictions that we are working on, or have worked on in the past. I would suggest quitting one at a time in the order of importance, or maximum negative consequences. But you have to be very aware not to ramp up other addictions to compensate. I quit at sex addiction years ago, and alcohol moved in to replace it and more. All IMHO.
FYI:
Here is a useful thread on getting through early recovery:
(Surviving Alcohol Withdrawal/Early Sobriety Techniques)
And recovery-related links that members have posted:
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Hi @BlazingPegasus. Thanks for joining us. I can relate to my behaviors causing a great deal of financial crises. Porn addiction is degenerative. The PA needs more porn and more harder forms of it to maintain the same high. It also is a building block behavior that leads to higher levels of acting out. In all 4 S-fellowships, porn is never accepted as healthy sexual behavior. In other words, virtually all members consider using it to be loss of sobriety.
For me, I cannot simply control my addiction. That would be like an alcoholic trying to stop at one drink. Once I get on the porn sites, I’m there all day long. I can’t just limit myself. And the fact that it’s found free on the internet doesn’t offer me the excuse that it’s okay. If someone waves free crack under my nose, it doesn’t mean I have to take a hit. Perhaps you may not feel ready to totally quit your porn use, but you will not be able to address your sex addiction without addressing your addiction to porn. I’m sorry😞
I think you get the point. For me, I have to get to the point of absolute surrendering to God my privilege to have sex. Sounds painful, doesn’t it? but if I cannot get to that point, then I will continue to go do destructive things to myself in order to gratify what my addict believes I need.
My heart goes out to you @BlazingPegasus. Your sharing really hits home for me. I know how it feels to lose control of my sexual sanity. But choosing to take the scary path of recovery is so worth it! Be prepared to have a whole new world open up for you. Thanks for sharing and welcome!
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Thank you for the support Melrm. I think Ill just focus on not spending money on this stuff first and try to decrease the frequency of the other things.
Thank you @JohnSee thats what Im worried about that the other things will ramp up but Im trying to decrease all of it. I have a feeling something might come into replace it and I am a bit afraid but I have nothing to lose at this point. Thanks for the links I will check them out.
@KevinesKay maybe its addict denial but I used to be able to just watch porn normally and not let it degenerate into paying for things. I cant address this one yet I feel like I have to masturbate and I need porn for it, it simply feels like a need. Again probably addict denial. But I am ready to stop paying money for this stuff - 3 days so far without a slip up. Unfortunately I do not belive in god or bring myself to so I cannot use that method of recovery. But Ill try to recover nonetheless. Thank you.
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