Hi @Debs and @Kathy welcome to the forum. 
Congrats on taking the first big step.
Every issue you mentioned has been raised before, and there really are solutions. It may be hard to see now. Spend some time reading around the forum, and you will see how much we have in common.
Here is a useful thread on getting through early recovery:
(Surviving Alcohol Withdrawal/Early Sobriety Techniques)
And recovery-related links that members have posted:
(Different Aspects of Recovery)
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