Had a bad Christmas due to drink now 12 days sober and trying to be a better father
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Awesome! Glad you’re back.
How are you planning to do things differently? People drink for a reason. Not always obvious what it is. Have you found yours?
Welcome back Lance. Good to see you back in the saddle again. Keep at it the best you can. Maybe you ve already figured out what you need to do to stay healthy and sober, but you can always come to TS for support and help. We’re in this together!
Welcome back Lance and great work on your 12 + days of sobriety. We are here for you – keep putting in the one day at a time work and stacking up the sober days! 
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Today will be my 12th day. We got this - for our kids and ourselves.
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12 days is alot of work well done, what are you doing to stay sober this time around?
Congrats on 12 days! I can relate to the fatherhood piece. I married my wife who had two kids when I met her. Tough situation especially since they lost their dad to a bad mix of alcohol and prescription drugs. I had some sober bouts prior to this one during the first five years of our marriage. But the last time I drank I knew I had to change. I had to be the guy they could depend on everyday and I wanted to be that guy so I made the choice to do it the best I can every day one day at a time. You can only take it one day at a time. I told my athletes on my baseball team the other day: success comes from doing a lot of little things right day after day after day one at a time! You just have to choose to do those things daily the right things according to YOUR plan 
Been there. Pretty much missed every Christmas for a number of years as I was more interested in swamping beer than spending it doing what I should have been doing such as enjoying my family and taking some downtime for myself. It’s a tough one to take in January but you got to use the regret to your advantage.
I’ll give you one small tip for next year. Put a reminder in your phone for the 20th of December this year. List out all the things you are feeling now to remind yourself that you will not waste another Christmas. Add a little commitment note that you will not buy drink or have drink in the house come Xmas Eve. The beast will try and convince you that you deserve it and you need to drink over Xmas but I can assure you that if you fight like hell and resist you will have a great sober Christmas period.
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