I’m doing really good not drinking or having cravings. But sometimes my brain is just like, damn its not fair I can’t just have one drink. Not fair I can’t drink like a “normal” person. Just sucks, but I can’t just throw it all away…
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Totally understandable thoughts. Play the tape forward. Think about what would happen if you just have that one drink and how things would spiral. That’s what I do when I feel like I’m missing out. Stay strong!
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It took a while for me not to feel resentful about not being able to be a normal drinker.
Every time I tried, I failed.
Over time as my days add up and I see my drinking friends have the same old drinking problems. My co-workers have the same old drinking problems.
I don’t have any drinking problems happening to me anymore. That makes it nice.
22 days is awesome! Welcome!
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It absolutely sucks and isn’t fair. It also isn’t fair that if I drink today I have many awful days ahead. So for today, my plan is not to pick up.
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It’s over rated! Feel grateful you are one of the lucky ones who lives life without it.
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Wake up in the morning hungover or wake up as you are now feeling fresh ? , u may have doubts u may feel depressed but god it feels better with a clear head every morning …
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22 is hard! Keep going, congratulations 
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Learn from my example. I felt the exact same way after 2 months of sobriety. I was free. Now Im back in a nearly endless series of day ones.
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Do you have any sober friends? Once you change your mindset that it’s not an option anymore you can look at it like something you used to do.
In one of your posts your wife said you inspired someone from work to quit, that’s pretty cool. Keep at it!
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Make it easier try a meeting plenty of people there who have been were you have wish you well
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i understand! from my experience when life is full of events i enjoy taking part in i don’t want to take anything. i was on a vacation a few days ago and hiked a lot. it was very enjoyable being able to not stumble and trip over the rocks constantly. i took some photos too (i hope i’ll get around to posting them). do you have something in your life that you like doing and do better sober?
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This was my mentality too for a LONG LONG time. But then I starting asking myself “what am I missing out on by NOT drinking” and the answer I mostly got was “nothing”….
It’s helped me get rid of that negative self talk.
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Read This Naked Mind, by Annie Grace. It completely changed the way I feel about drinking. I no longer feel that I’m depriving myself of drinking, I feel delighted that I no longer have to do it. It makes a huge difference and means that you are not constantly leaning on your willpower, which is a finite resource. It has completely changed my life.
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I actually ordered that last week and its coming tomorrow. Haven’t looked forward to reading anything in a long time. But I heard great things about it
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Don’t expect too much. I’m sure different people get different things from it. I read it 4 times in the early days and got different things from it each time.
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Hi - I’m the same way. Was just going to post about how I’ve done well - 524 days - but still get frustrated because I can’t drink like others - responsibly. But I also know this far in - I know exactly how things end. And they don’t end well. Thus, over time, that frustration with myself gets less and less.
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Totally agree!!!
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I know this is a post from 2022 but im 23 days sober and can relate. My minds at thst stage where its really trying to convince me ways to get drinking. Thinking of excuses I can use, or lieing to myself thinking I can have a “few”
Most of us Alcoholics can relate to it. We all know we cant have one or two. One thing that helps me is playing the tape all the way through.
Mt brain only wants to remember the fun ti es and I had a lot of fun times with drinking. But then it turns to too much fun or not wanting the fun to end and its drinking till I pass out and trying to piece together the night before. Apologizing for stuff I did or things I broke falling down or the puke my wife cleaned up.
So I play my tape all the way through and force myself to remember what happens after that one or two. Its another 6. Then its another 12. Then its another case. Alcohol is the root of all evil. Put on the shelves by our government’s to Saratoge us IMO.
For years growing up it was weed the was the “gateway drug” they were so wrong. Alcohol was the gate way drug. If it wasn’t for alcohol I wouldn’t have tried all sorts of hard drugs, becoming addicted. So there’s more hurdles to overcome. The drugs were hard to quit but I quit them. But Alcohol is the hardest thing I’ve ever quit and. Just hoping thst the light at the end of the tunnel comes cause I just want to be sober and not think about drinking all day.
Stay strong everyone. Im 43. Started the booze at 14. I hope thst any young people reading this understand that it won’t feel like a problem u till one day it is a problem and it very addictive. Stay away from alcohol. Its not worth it.
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Congrats on 23 days sober… so glad you are reading around old and new posts. Let’s stay sober today together….
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Congratulations on 22 days sober that’s no small feat! Just remember what you lose to alcohol and that there’s never anything to gain. Keep pushing forward my friend! 
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