Is it always this hard… because I’ve been 24 hours sober - and I decorated the Christmas tree, and an overwhelming sense of wanting a drink came over me. Then whenever my son started crying because we wouldn’t let him take the ornaments off the tree and I started crying. It’s like everything I’ve been suppressing with alcohol is just bubbling over. I mean I had a hard day at work. I was trying to make the day better and something about my 15 month old baby crying absolutely obliterated me. . I guess I just need advice on what to do from here
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I promise it does get easier. I have a daughter with disabilities and those early days were exhausting both mentally and physically. I thought I would wind up in a mental institution. Ok maybe not that dramatic but it was pretty bad. What helped me was self care. A nice hot bath after she went to bed was very soothing. Sweets were also a go to for me. Not the healthiest but it was better than drinking.
Edited to add…A brisk walk when I felt overwhelmed was very helpful. Removing myself when my daughter threw a tantrum was necessary for my own mental health.
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When I first decided to get sober for the first few days I felt lost, kind of like a stranger in my own body and mind. But as time passed I felt more and more like myself.
I’m only sitting at 22 days so I’m still early into it, but each day I feel better and better. My emotions are in check, my mind is focused and sharp, things that bothered me before just roll off my chest now.
It’s an adjustment, but for the better. Give it some time and keep pushing forward, it gets much better
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I’m wondering if it’s hypocritical that I have a non alcoholic beer once in a while? I really miss the taste in my mouth and back of my throat especially.
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There is no one way to be sober. Do what you need to do to get to that space 
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I’m trying, i told myself I needed to feel what I haven’t felt in forever to hope to heal.
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I personally don’t drink them because I think it would cause me to relapse, or at least make me dangerously close. I also know that many “non alcoholic” beers still have a small amount of alcohol in them.
That being said, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with drinking them as long as it’s truly a 0.0% beer. It’s just my personal preference not to have them.
There’s been a ton of debate around here on the pros and cons of non alcoholic drinks; if you use the search function you can find a bunch of threads with different people’s thoughts 
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