29 days from alcohol..I have a question 🤔 can you help me

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Hi my name is Cyndy I’m 29 days sober from alcohol…it may not seem like it’s long but it’s a very big thing for me …I drank alot I drank when I was sad , mad even to celebrate, breakups, sometimes didn’t even have to be a reason I just had money and wanted to drink…but yeah I’m here because past 3 nights now I’ve broke down and cried …it would happen when I’m alone or when I’m trying to sleep I’d breakdown …is this a normal thing…because I really do not like it…I just want to be okay and stay sober but there’s alot of emotions :weary: idk what to do with all these emotions…

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I think emotions being all over the place is common in early sobriety. When drinking we block out and numb emotions and so when we stop doing that they flood back and we don’t know how to deal with them. Be gentle with yourself.
And congrats on your sober time! :blush:

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It’s too much for me though, and it’s kinda hard not to go back…I’m happy I made it this far though and I don’t want to mess it up…I just need someone I can talk to I guess…my bf kinda makes it hard to talk to him about it…

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If you go back to numbing and postponing with alcohol you will go backwards. It is hard now, but eventually you will learn how to deal with emotions in a healthier way. It is also possible alcohol was masking (but actually worsening) anxiety and depression. The first step for addressing all of this is sobriety.
It can be hard for partners to understand what we are going through. I come here when I want to be understood with regard to recovery.

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I know I can do this I am doing this for our relationship also…I’ve done so much damage because of alcohol and I do not want to go back to that…he is a good guy and all but you’d think he’d understand and know how to comfort me after sobering up 7 years now :person_shrugging:I overthink alot too :person_facepalming:

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Your experience resonates with me. I’m 36 days sober and have cried more in this time than in the previous 30 years of addiction. It initially felt overwhelming, coming to terms with feeling again. But with good support you will find your path through sobriety. The TS community have been crucial in getting me this far. Like yourself, it was a big deal for me to stop drinking alcohol. Keep checking in here, keep going ODAAT. You’ve got this!

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I never thought it could’ve been this overwhelming but I got this :heart: thanks so much for your message and I will try my best to stick to this…and keep coming back :smiling_face: and congratulations on 36 days sober your doing great :smiling_face::heart::100::person_raising_hand:

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Hey Cyndy…i remember being exactly the same emotionally in early sobriety i literally cried buckets…it think its completely normal for all those emotions to come to the surface once we stop numbing them…just go with it is my advice…ride the emotions knowing that what you are doing ie staying sober is the best thing you can possibly do for yourself right now…if you stick it out i can tell you for sure it does get better its just overwhelming to begin with. Keep talking to us whenever you need to…we are here for you…you dont have to do any if this alone now you have us :heart::people_hugging:

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Right back at you for making 29 days! Whatever you’re doing, keep doing it💪 don’t let anyone get in your way as sobriety is time to be selfish. Time to be a better you.

It’s tough when you don’t feel supported at home. What can help is to focus on what you can control, which is your own actions. Baby steps still get you to where you want to go.

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Thanks :blush: I will keep coming back here you guys helped me alot​:blush: I know being sober is best for me and this is only the beginning and I can get through this especially with your guys advice :hugs:

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Thanks so much…and we both got this :person_raising_hand: thanks for the advice :blush:

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Welcome @CyndyVannah69 to an amazing supportive community

Congrats on 29 days sober! Thats massive. The early days and breaking the habit are the most brutal so kutos.

Now that you are getting sober emotions will come up. My emotions were all over the place too because a) quitting is hard and uncomfortable and b) i didnt know how to deal with them sober. It seems different now because you arent coping with alcohol. So a task in early sobriety is to find those healthy coping skills. You’ll hear the phrase “build your toolbox” .

Read around. Post. You are not alone in this, you have this forum, at the very least, full of people who can relate.

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Welcome!!! I’m so glad you found us. Keep doing what you’re doing and be open minded to trying new things to cope with your feelings. Meditation has helped me so much with emotional regulation, even just learning to control my breathing and breathing through tough stuff. It also helped me to look at what was really going on, what am I actually feeling right now? Can I identify a source? Sometimes it’s just a discharge of built up crap but sometimes it does stem from somewhere that I have some control over. Anyway, I’m glad you’re here with us and I hope you take full advantage of this community. It’s been my lifeline for several years now.

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Hello Cyndyvannah69
I am going through it right now, but I feel better, if you wanna speak to someone, you are more than welcome to be in touch with me anytime.

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Hey and welcome , yes in early sobriety i remember my emotions were everywhere from anger to then being on the floor upset , but good news it does balance out and you get control back and things that would of sent u to the bottle don’t seem so bad, im not saying its perfect and easy but being sober you can cope better :blush: good luck its great here for info or a chat 24/7 as we are everywhere lol ADAAT :muscle:

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