I hit 30 Days today and I’m struggling. A sophisticated beautiful client came into my work and talked about how she had a couple glasses of wine on her porch and I have not stopped thinking about a few days since. I went on fb and saw a fun friend of wine in photos with drinks and it made me feel discouraged. I felt super hyped the first couple weeks because of how good I felt but right now I’m craving so bad I dk what to do. I re read my letters to myself, I’m reading a good book, I worked out today. Any advice on this ?
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Hey Brandy.
Congratulations on your 30 days. That’s Huge!! I never want to go through that first 30 ever again. I don’t know if I could. That was the hardest thing ever. Especially that first ten days. I don’t think I got another recovery in me.
Early on I did lots of angry power walks with Eminem and some other angry gangsta rappers or whatever you call them. I’d walk my ass off and curse and be so pissed off because I know I can’t drink like a normie.
And I did evening hot showers. Long hot showers around happy hour. I cried a lot. I was so upset I let it get so out of hand.
Play the tape forward. You are doing so well. We all get cravings. Just for today. Or tonight. Whereever you are. Make through this 24 and you got another ODAAT.
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Sophisticated Steve almost drank himself to death. 
I lost everything and still wanted to drink. I’m an alcoholic who has no “off switch” Desperation and pain humbled me and I cried out for help. My life has slowly reappeared in a simple calculated plan to stay sober each day. The freedom from alcohol is not a gift, I work each day to live a satisfied life in sobriety. The benefits grow as each successful day passes. Don’t throw away your 30 days. You may never have this choice again. Be strong and sober. That’s sophisticated at the highest level ! 
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Exactly how I feel. I don’t think I could ever get sober again if I had another drink.
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30 days is absolutely HUGE. Congratulations.
Just keeping thinking of why you wanted to stop in the first place, and how far you’ve already come.
We both know you’ll completely regret it, it’s just your brain playing tricks on you. Your heart doesn’t want to go back or else you wouldn’t be here asking for help in the first place.
Listen to your heart, not your brain, and stay strong. I wish you all the best, and again well done on 30 days, let’s make it 30 more! 
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Hello congrats on your 30 day it’s a big milestone. I have had to start over numerous times today is my 21st day and struggling also. Going to meetings and fellowship always helps a great deal. Get a sponsor and create a relationship with a higher power however I see it. Always helps me. Try to stay busy keeps the cravings at bay. I have been 30 days three times this year and struggling with it so I even checked myself into a inpatient program to help me get past my 30 days this time. It helps being around and staying with sober people everyday. Good luck to you my friend in the struggle.
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First of all – congratulations on 30 days!!
I hope you can see and appreciate what you’ve accomplished – it’s huge!
Acknowledging the cravings and coming here to share is a great step. They will pass, I promise.
What helped me was replacing the idea of “treating myself with a glass of wine” with something else. I quit in winter, so I treated myself to an explorative journey through every tea flavor I could find. It quickly became a routine – a lovely cup of tea every night instead of one or two bottles of wine.
The brain learns quickly. Soon you*`ll find that alcohol is not needed at all, to have a good and relaxing time. The brain learns fast. Maybe try exploring some mocktails? There are some really great non-alcoholic drinks out there. Now is the time to find new things that make you happy - follow your curiosity. You got this 
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Thank you so much for that. I’ve quit many times and I really relate to what you are saying. I hate that my mind tries to tell me that I want to try drinking modestly again over and over. I made it thought tonight, in bed and no alcohol for me
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Thank you so much. I made it and I’m in bed, sober
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Thank you, I love tea and the mocktails have been great. I’m really trying to find what the deeper thing is here because in really think I may be missing the outings and the connection
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I understand. Milestones are usually a bit bumpy. Ride it out and give yourself some more time to get used to sober life. Connection really is not linked to alcohol per se. Maybe try to hang with friends that don`t drink for now? I found the quality of my connections leveled up, now that I remember what I talked about 
Good night to you. You made it another sober day. Tomorrow is a new day. ODAT 
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I’m glad you put your sober head on the pillow. When you wake up and there is no hangover … This feeling never gets old 
Have a good night and a happy sober start to the new week 
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Morning from Scotland maybe try ameeting meet like minded people who can relate to your situation and help you , and long walks maybe some physical exercise and diet drink lots of water , wish you well
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Congrats on 30 days sober !! The first 30
Days are definitely the toughest. Don’t be fooled by the romanticized idea about a few drinks in the sun by Sophisticated Susan.If you are anything like myself and many of the others here you’ll be left feeling anything but sophisticated if pick up that first drink again. I’m glad you reached out about it and made it to bed sober last night. Heres to another sober 24 today. You can do this
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Yes! I’m very glad to hear that. First thing I thought of this morning when I woke up was to check your post.
Waking up sober is truly a blessing, never give up and come here anytime if you need help
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Awe, thank you that means a lot. Woke up happy that I did not drink! I was thinking about that sophisticated client I had and how she probably has one or two glasses of wine. For me it’s never satisfying because one or two is never enough. I would have woken up with a headache. Going on my kiddos felild trip to the pool today and so happy I’m hydrated and clear minded!
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Or maybe she had a 5 or 6 glasses and went to bed swearing never again. Hard to say for her…but for me…nothing beats waking up sober, hangover and anxiety free and so proud of myself. After many years, it is still an amazing feeling. I never want to wake up with that horrible anxiety and oh no crap ass feeling again.
Your 30 days + is amazing!! I know how damn hard that is and how much mental, physical and emotional strength and stamina it takes and you are doing this! You have a lot to be proud of.
I found a lot of insight and help in a couple of books when I was earlier in sobriety…maybe you would as well…Quit Like A Woman by Holly Whitaker and We Are The Luckiest by Laura McKowen.
So glad you worked thru the rough spot. That’s how you build those sober muscles!! Way to go!!
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