So I did four months then had two days of drowning my sorrows following a difficult week. I am back on it again but I just feel like I have wasted four months!!! I don’t want to lose that over a small slip up! Has anyone continued with their time length but admitted the number of times they have had a bad day?
Sending good vibes to all x
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Don’t get caught up with the numbers I see it happen alot ppl have expectations of how they should feel by 30,60,90,6 mths me included, reset but carry on as you were nobody can take the learning and progress you made in that time. Don’t stay out get staight bk on it is my suggestion.
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Easy Does it…One Day at a Time…and Please do not beat yourself up…you fell down and now you are back up, the only thing that changed is your sobriety date…saddle back up and begin riding again. You’re going to be fine. Love ya!!
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I did just over 6 months and then relapsed for about a year because of the shame, guilt and the fact I lost those 6 months. I’ve come to the realisation that it really doesn’t matter how many days you have or had, what matters is happiness and quality of life. Was I happy in those 6 months, no not really. I’m 8 days back sober and clean and feeling happier than ever before. Try not to focus on what you’ve done but what you’re doing right now. The past is gone and no matter how much we wish we could change it, the simple fact is we can’t. Dust yourself back off and go do something that makes you truly happy. Much love my friend, you’ve got this
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You haven’t lost the 4 months, that time is still yours. Learn from why you picked up and do things differently. Be gentle on yourself this is a hard path to walk. Together we’re stronger. 
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Have to start again ,maybe try a different mindset this time we all have hard times and dont lift a drink. so next time it will be a decision not a event that sets you off and that decision will be the right one dont lift the first drink wish you well , maybe try a meeting wish you well
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It would be a reset for me. If I didn’t reset, then I’m just giving myself permission to do it over and over again.
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I would reset if it were me. I am the type of alcoholic that needs to remain accountable for my actions. Skirting by and bending rules were my old way of thinking. If I allow that thinking to return then I am only hurting myself.
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Sobriety requires we be pretty damn honest with ourselves.
I’d reset personally, if I drank today after 3.5 years, I’d be back on day one.
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Nah you gotta reset 
I can see how itd be tempting not to but just think how it’ll feel in a few months from now.
Say you get to a year on your counter. Itll say 1 year but you’ll always know in the back of your mind that you are really at 8 months.
Itll always feel false and somewhat tainted if you dont.
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We cant lie to ourselves. No matter how hard the times may be it only hinders our progress in truly recovering from alcoholism when we take that first drink. Its not the last one that gets us, always the 1st one that does!
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And this will help a lot in the long run. I had 6 months sober like 7 years ago, I went back out and started and stopped a lot. Would’ve been useful to not hang my hat on the 6 months I had thinking “oh well I had 6 months, I could do it again”
When I got sober this time, it was allllllll about my present. What am I doing about it today, right now, in the next 15 minutes.
I still focus on what am I doing about it today, today is the only day that matters.
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Do whatevet you want. It’s your journey. Everyone on this forum is gonna tell you to reset.
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And reset I have.
I’m surprised that I actually don’t feel so bad because after reading all your wise advice and experiences I managed to change my mindset.
So I’m on day three and feeling good.
Thank you everyone, much love.
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3days out is better than 3days in. 
1step at a time youll make it. Just take it easy day at a time. Pick up the phone and reach out b4 picking up, theres people who understand and can help you through the ‘hard times’ talk it out
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Hey 
…I’m 108 days but I got two lots of ten days before that so if I think about it I’m actually 128 days but only 108 since my last pick up,you’ll get further than you have before and that’s the experience, strength and hope that you carry 
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I’ve had bad days, good days, great days and days where drink and drugs have given me momentary eternal bliss, lost everything but my honesty and reset that button hundreds of times until the day I didn’t need to. Can’t promise I won’t reset tommorow but today it’s looking good.
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Really love this group, you have all lifted me and I am so grateful. Thank you!
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