Any advice for 5 month newbie? So anyone wanna talk? I’m new to this and haven’t been to a meeting so not sure what my next step is..
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Your #1 tip for sobriety from people with long term sobriety
I would recommend meetings, why not give them a shot. You can feel free to reach out to me with any questions 
. Welcome to TS and congrats on 5 months!
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Congratulations on 5 months! For me at that time, I was over or nearly over the big ‘getting’ sober struggle, and it was the ‘staying’ sober that I needed to focus on. How could I build a life I didn’t want to escape from; the ‘stinking thinking’ that led me to drink, how could I think differently?
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@DFWMAMABEAR Hi! First congrats on 5 Months Sober; same as me. I think you will find this site to be an amazing resource for you; a lot of the people here can provide better advice than me, but we are all in this together.
Stay strong…Len
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I have continuous sobriety from 1984 and have mentored many new comers. Also operated halfway houses and sober homes.
Congrats on your early sobriety !! Keep on keeping on !!
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Thank you very much
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@DFWMAMABEAR Hi Tiff welcome to the best recovery app in the universe and well done on 5 months sober 
I don’t have as long sober as @bobslife only 21 years as opposed to his 41 years, which is really awesome 
Now as Flo said you’re probably past the “getting sober phase” and you’re in the staying sober phase, which lasts the rest of your life 
The only way forward is to get into a recovery program 
It doesn’t matter which flavour (I’m AA) whatever works for you and get to meetings f2f is best but online is fine.
Keep looking forward, but try to remember “we will not regret the past nor turn our back on it”.
Look at staying sober as if you’re driving a car; you need to spend all most all of your time looking forward to see where you’re going, but you need to check your mirrors now and again to see where you’ve been, and to look for dangers creeping up on you.
The other thing is that you can get bored, you need something to replace the time you spent drinking going out to bar’s etc.
What you do is up to you, but it should be achievable, enjoyable and if possible be of help to others, e.g. reading a book, getting to the end is achievable and enjoyable, and if the book is recovery lit and it heped you , then pass a recommendation to others (meetings) or try to pass on some of it’s ideas.
The fatal thing is to get complacent, one drink won’t hurt, I’ve been sober X amout of months, years I can drink normally; big no to both.
Alcohol is cunning, baffling and powerful and is just waiting for the chance to start sending you incidious thoughts.
You can be a recovered Alcoholic, but you’ll always be recovering from Alcoholism; there’s no cure, only hard work.
So stay strong, stay safe and above all stay sober; it’s the first drink that gets you drunk not the tenth
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