Dinner with friends is tough now, want to go home by 9. Struggling to stay focused, or interested, can’t bear repetitive conversations or topics. Fixed grin, thoughts straying to when can I leave this. I din’t feel like my life will ever be the same again. No compulsion to drink alcohol but just don’t know where I’m at anymore or who I want to be around. This is so confusing.
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Is everyone else around you drinking? Drunk people can be frustrating. It is true you may have to adjust your social life a little when you get sober. Meeting people for coffee, going to the gym or cinema together, doing alcohol free things together is a way to socialize. It is ok to bow out of drinking situations early.
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There’s a great saying “Fake it till you make it”. I had to pretend to be the person I wanted to be until eventually it became more natural.
I still pretend to be polite, interested and tolerable but people don’t need to know that 
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Takes more than nearly 100 days sober to discover the real you but hey there’s no rush, it’s normal.
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I’m always honest with my friends and say that I have to leave at a certain time. My real friends understand. And since getting sober, I have unfortunately also lost friends. It’s probably for the best anyways.
I’m not entirely sure about your situation but I’ll share what’s helped for me:
I have purposely put myself in more positive situations to be around more people whose values align more with mine. I go to a gym now with people who are focused on health and well-being. So it’s always easy to have conversations that align with that. Plus, it’s always interesting to learn what your fellow gym peers do for a living and learn about other hobbies they may have.
I also participate in volunteer opportunities through my employer. Again, alignment in values and cool to learn what other people do within my organization.
Take opportunities to rediscover yourself and your world. 
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