A journey - Refuse to sink

Life in Recovery
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Hi everyone, I’m Zuuzu and I’ve been sober for 32days now. :partying_face: I’ve been down this journey before and I’ve always gotten to the 3 month mark and failed… actually I’m using the incorrect word I relapsed. I realised I kept bringing myself down with this incorrect word that I was using “failed”. Anyway I’m back again on this journey and recently found this community which has been an absolute great help :).

I thought I should post something today because I need all the strength I can get, I’m going to a wedding celebration today and there’s always this expectation that you need to drink to show you’re having fun. I’ll be surrounded by people who will obviously be disregarding and bashing my reasons for not drinking, people who will tell me that I’m too young to stop drinking and should enjoy my youth, basically who don’t understand why I’ve taken the decision to stop drinking. I just don’t like who I am when I drink, I don’t like how I feel the next day, I don’t see why I need to put my body through all that anymore. I have a lot of will power but sometimes it just gets to me and it’s been the result of my many relapses (see I used the right word this time :grinning: .
I’m really determined to make it past the 3 month mark this time.

Anyway I’m off to this wedding, wish me luck. :expressionless:

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Welcome! Good luck at the wedding. For my first event sober I drank tons of water and ordered non alcoholic cocktails. It kept me sober and fooled those who saw me drinking what looked to be a real cocktail.

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Hope the wedding goes well! I would drink sparkling water with a lime or some kind of mocktail. That will keep people off your back. It’s too bad it’s like that.

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I wish you well, Zuuuzu. I hope if you get tempted to relapse that you come here instead and reach out. I wish people were more respectful when someone chooses not to drink. Good luck!!!

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@Zuuuzu you rock for coming on here and using the lifeline, it shows you obviously really care about not drinking. if people are bullying you for making a good decision, that just means they are being immature and disrespectful. don’t even acknowledge it, you don’t owe anyone an explanation. live your life on your terms! and just focus on having a blast at the celebration! :partying_face: ps congratulations to your friends who are getting married :pray:t3::two_hearts::smiling_face::smiling_face:

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I need to remember that, I don’t owe anyone an explanation​:raised_hands:t5::raised_hands:t5::raised_hands:t5:. Thank you​:grin:

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Thank you so much to everyone that commented here​:heart:. Your words gave me strength, I’m happy to report that I survived my first sober event​:partying_face::partying_face::partying_face:. People kept giving me the eye and I gave the EYE right back!!! I had my ever trusted bottle of sparkling water right next to me, I enjoyed myself and went home at a reasonable time​:raised_hands:t5::raised_hands:t5::raised_hands:t5:.

Cheers to this journey☕️.

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