I hear you on emotions and feelings and family of origin. I wasn’t raised in an emotive and I was and am a very emotionally driven person. I was also very dramatic and chaotic in my younger years…go figure! 
I had a lot of conversations with my husband over the years on emotions and feelings being ‘okay’ to feel and express. He is trained as an electrical engineer, so his brain works a bit different. 
It is comforting for me to be at a place where my feelings no longer rule me. Don’t get me wrong, I get mired in them plenty, but as you said, being okay with feeling them has been key. I think a lot of the current ease for me is aging out of hormones + just life in general. Feelings are what they are…learning to acknowledge them and release them has been a huge part of my journey in life. Definitely a positive of aging and lack of hormones…silver lining!! 
I am glad you shared your thoughts and feelings!!
x:100:!! 